From the day they were born I greeted every single sign of independence in my children with delight. You keep your children by teaching them to fly.
I had the wonderful example of my DMiL. DH was a much loved only son, but if, at 16, he had announced he was off to Australia. His mother would have packed his bag and seen him off with a bright smile - and wept after he had gone. The result was she had a loving independent son, who never neglected her.
I hope I have done the same. DS and family live 200 miles away, but we hear from him one way or another almost daily; Facebook, Facebook Messenger, email, phone. In the last few days we have received photos of DGD going to school dressed up for book day, photos of the snow and DGC playing in it. Phone calls to see how we are coping in the snow and news of the secondary school DGD will be going to next year. The distance and his job means we see them school holidays and half term, we go north for half term, they come south in the holidays.
DD is single, does not have children and lives 70 miles awat. She lives alone and works from home. She rings frequently as well as emailing.
Is there a gender difference? I do not know. With one child married with children, and the other not, comparisons are impossible.
Harry and Meghan ‘royal’ tour of Nigeria.
Forgetting where you left your keys does not mean you are “losing it”