I don't think you can DEMAND anything from your son.
My sons are 37 and 34, and the eldest one has 2 children (estranged from the mother but son sees the girls on a regular basis)
The eldest son goes for meals, drink, or sometimes shopping with me. He also has a close relationship with my husband (father). The younger one is close to us, but we probably see him every 2-3 weeks. He has a very demanding job, a busy social life, and does a lot of things in his own home.
I love the fact that my sons are close - we all live less than a mile from each other, so they're close in proximity too.
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