We do seem to hear about those men who don't share the chores. I am absolutely certain there are men out there caring for sick partners, doing more than their share of chores and looking after grandchildren. Let's hear about them now.
Happy to help, sodapop. As stated, mine does all the day to day catering, the gardening (including a large allotment), the rubbish and other mucky jobs (drain clearing, etc). We also do our DGS duties together, and he has a great relationship with the lads. When his mum was alive and needing care, he and his brother did the bulk of it. He does his share of dishwashing and laundry, though to be fair machines do most of that. He does most of the vaccing. He'd happily do DIY, but I've learnt from experience to steer him away from it, especially if I see a hammer in his hand....
Leaving me with tidying, dusting, kitchen and bathroom cleaning, and my share of the laundry, dishwashing and childcare. When we have family meals here or friends round, I'm in charge. I do the decorating, carpet laying, etc when required and the admin (finance, holiday planning, present buying, booking stuff). House repairs we leave to the experts. Nobody irons.
As for grocery shopping, I click, he collects.
So, we play to our strengths and we each have oodles of spare time to enjoy both together and separately. Which is why I recommended earlier to the OP finding what he likes to do and entrusting him with it, instead of insisting he does something he clearly hates.