Mother of groom wedding invite

We went to a Wedding a fortnight ago,I cant remember who sent the invitation, but to reply one had to ring someone.Personally I love the old fashioned way to send and reply to an invitation.The Wedding was unusual to say the least, we live in Sweden.The bride walked down the aisle alone the bridesmaids before her.The reception was like a circus, while waiting for the couple there was a quiz, you had to walk about to find the answers, the quiz was about the couple, we had drinks and small finger food it was a glorious day.After the buffet food, which was delicious there was a rather loud man having a musical quiz, he divided the guests into groups there were sixty guests who had to move forward to where he was and then anyone who knew the music had to shout out.After this we had the Wedding cake etc, then had to move outside while they removed the tables, then it was the Bride and Grooms waltz, at 11pm they opened the bar when most of us "oldies" where leaving, the party went on until 5am.We were quite exhausted with this type of musical chairs Wedding, it was unusual to say the least.

When my daughter got married we sent them to the groom's family, but it was more of a memento for them. I think it's just good manners to send them one .

Talking of etiquette. When my DD got married this easter I looked up about weddings and who did what etc just out of interest when I spotted the one which says no-one is to remove their hat until the brides mother removes hers. I left mine on until the evening party. No-one else had except the grooms mother. My MILs face was a picture when I mentioned that others had broken the rule as they had already taken theirs off. I was joking but I don't think she saw it like that haha.

We received an invitation to our DS's wedding.
Mr & Mrs *** (bride's parents) request the pleasure etc
A bit weird, but all the more so when you know that we paid £5000 more towards the wedding than her parents did!
We did get a mention in the Order of Service, but at the very bottom of the page, and DH's name was spelled wrongly!
To say I was displeased is a huge understatement, but it's not worth causing a big argument over!

Not always Muffin! Maybe stress in making arrangements and there's always some little blip but in my experience the families have usually been fine with all the arrangements and no-one has fallen out!

It was indeed PECS. Anyway my apologies, I don't want to hijack the thread. Weddings and funerals....always cause problems.

Oh Millie that sounds a bit sad x

We handed the parents blank ones for mementos when they arrived.

My brother’s MIL sent my parents an invitation since she was making a larger contribution than them. Mother went loco and this probably contributed to the day from hell.

PECS it was made worse by my DIL thanking everyone, her parents, brothers, grandparents, my late DH....but not me or my partner. I just wanted to go home.

Oh dear Millie how horribly insensitive! We all shared the cost of DDs wedding and saw it as their day not ours or the in laws!

It will always be a painful memory for me when I recall my son's new inlaws actually thanking me for coming to 'their wedding'...and yes, we had contributed...quite a lot.

I cannot even recall what DD did for her wedding! I will have a copy of the invite somewhere but what it said I don't know now! It was a fab and joyful day where we all had a lovely time ..the finer details did not matter to me or to DD & her husband... as long as the people they wanted at their celebration knew when where it was that was her main concern,, it looked nice I remember that

We got an invitation from DSD, to her own dad! I know it was a 2nd marriage and was being held and co_organised by his parents, but it did seem a bit odd!

I was old fashion then ?, I paid for the wedding gowns, cars, bouquets, choir, I didn’t have to pay for the Cathedral , organist , the two priests who officiated at both weddings or the flowers in the cathedral, these were gifts, I was a member of the flower guild ? and worked in the cathedral. The four priests were family friends. My brother paid for the reception and my parents for the evening party, I couldn’t afford those. I liked weddings arranged this way but sadly they are on the way out.

The general etiquette is that the invitations should be sent by whoever is paying. So, if both sets of parents are chipping in, it should say something to the effect of: "Mr. and Mrs. Ron Smith and Mr. and Mrs. Joe Bloggs request your presence at the marriage of their children, Jane and Peter." If it is the couple themselves it would say "Jane Smith and Peter Bloggs request the pleasure of your company on the occasion of their marriage".

I think it largely depends on who is paying. One of our sons married into a rather old-fashioned family where they had been saving for their daughter's wedding. The invites went out with the traditional wording,
Mr. & Mrs. Bennet request your company at the wedding of their daughter Elizabeth to Mr. Fitwilliam Darcy....
They gave us one 'as a memento'.
Our other sons have paid for their own, with input from both sets of parents, the invites have been less formal, and we have also been given invites 'as a memento'.

Oops! Try bagain.

One was a very formal invitation from the brides parents which arrived through the post. The other much less formal from the bride and groom, handed personally to all parents as a memento.

We’ve kept both.

One was a very formal invitation from the br

Me to Daddima and BB, I did the same for both my daughters weddings and my parents did the same for mine

Ditto Daddima

We have a lovely one at the moment...sent by the bride & groom which is phrased.......'Join us to celebrate the wedding of......&......' Financially I have no idea who is paying I suspect the young couple are putting in a fair bit, they are certainly doing most of the arrangements (with a generous wedding present coming from parents).
I think modern weddings are so varied, with many of the young couples having set up home years before they marry. In fact I did find myself questioning all the press interest in the recent royal wedding....all that 'is the father going to give the bride away?' business. She hardly needed giving away, she was an independent young woman who had been in charge of her life for many years as many young women are nowadays. Yes, its nice for a loved parent to 'walk them down the isle'.....but 'give them away'.....not really surely?

Ours were always , as Jordana says, ‘ Mr & Mrs Blank request....’, but latterly we’ve had ones like, ‘ Hi there! Girl & Boy are getting married, and would love you to join us’, or something similar.
I liked the old way, and my mother insisted the invitations all said, ‘ request the pleasure of your company’, with the name(s) being written on the envelope. Space left on the invitation card for the guests’ names was ‘common’, apparently, as were cards which were anything other than plain heavy white card with silver edging and lettering!
Oh, and acceptance had to be by hand-written letter, thanking Mrs & Mrs for the invitation,repeating the invitation wording, and having ‘ much pleasure in accepting’!

It is so long since I went to a wedding that the etiquette escapes me.
When my C got married we received an invitation from the bride's parents in the case of my S and sent invitations to the parents of the groom when my D married.
This was really for momentoes for the parents.
Does it matter that now both C are now no longer in those marriages??

These days the couple mostly send the invitations. They may send to their own family - both sets of parents and siblings, even though it’s understood they’re invited.

Even if bride’s parents are contributing to cost of wedding, the couple themselves usually make all the arrangements. At least that’s my experience of being invited to weddings in recent years.

We did the same when we got married (traditional) but on DDs invitation our names and grooms parents were both included at her request. I think that is more usual tgese days. Or even for the couple themselves to invite people.