Living with someone with strongly opposing political views

I was romantically involved with a libertarian once as a student.

However since we were teenagers, it was fairly easy to find alternative activities than discussing politics.

My DH and I held different views on many things (including politics) but we never let it interfere with our relationship.

If I were you I would be examining all aspects of the relationship and not blaming problems on one thing.

Can you not still talk politics?
Its not inevitable that you'll fall out, is it?

I suppose it depends how much you want a partner who you can discuss politics with and how important Brexit is to you.

Can you discuss politics apart from Brexit without him becoming defensive?

It is just your views on Brexit that he is dismissive of, or is it your politics in general?

I think that if your views are being ridiculed, because you do not agree with his views, then that is a bit of a red flag.

It could start with you not discussing Brexit, then not discussing any politics, then what? What else would you feel you had to keep quiet about because it might upset him?

I know that a lot of people are quite happy not to discuss politics, and that is fine for them, but is it fine for you?

My parents were always on opposite sides of the fence politically ...well for a very long time .Mum was raised in a Labour /catholic household.Believe me the two go together in the West of Scotland .Dad was raised by Orange Order /Conservatives and although he ditched the OO at the start of their marriage it took a couple of decades for him to cross the tracks to a different political stance.
He did it though and when I was 13 and constantly talking about Independence and Winnie Ewing he decided to join me as a member of the SNP.
They never fought about politics or religion but as a family we had some very lively discussions,especially if granny was there as she was a massive Labour supporter ..IF you love him surely you can see he is entitled to his own views no matter how different they are to yours .Try listening to him...not so you'll jump ship and join the leavers but just to see it from his perspective .

*who's not whose.

I don't know anyone whose fallen out with partner or family over the EU referendum but I do know families who've been split by the Scottish Independence referendum and also, in America, the Democrat/Republican divide.

I don't know what I'd do if I had to live with it all the time, tbh. Does he have other redeeming features?

"It’s getting to the stage where I think it’s best to remain quiet and not talk politics at all but that’s a cop out, isn’t it? I worry that I am starting to dislike him and that Brexit could kill our relationship. "

I think we've done to death all the "Brexit is killing our relationship" headlines too over the last two years. They are fairly old hat.

Do you have a political pot to stir I wonder?

He is an intelligent and well-educated man

Really? A Leaver? Are you joking? OMG! Many Gransnet Remainers won't believe you!!! shock Horror

And remember that every time you argue with him about it you push him into a further extreme position. Let it lie.

I read left and right wing and fairly neutral reports and I am not going to get too het up about opposing views. Life is far too short.

I agree the EU referendum has divided opinion but you either take it to heart and follow every move, forward step, backwards step, predicament, success story, etc, etc faithfully (so much so that it colours your life and puts you at odds with others) or you decided to stand aside, let events take their course (we cannot influence them no matter how much we write to Guardian columns, or Gransnet ones) and lead a more peaceful life.

Remind yourself the reason you're with him is because you love him.

Hugely important political events have come and gone, always have and there have been many in my lifetime, but life for us ordinary mortals tends to go on, unaffected to any great extent. You can make it an issue but personally I'd save your emotions for people and more important things.

I don’t think I could live with someone with strongly opposing political views. It’s pretty basic, and I cannot imagine not discussing politics with people close to me. Same goes for religion.

Don't discuss politics - we never do, as I suspect I might not like what I hear. What I don't hear I need not get upset about.

It is not a cop out - it is simply common sense.