Ex has moved to new home town

Granarchist - That must be really awful, even if she is not actually scared. I would certainly report any instances of harassment to the police, they do take things more seriously now. But I would guess that the fact he is just 'there' is the real issue.

How did the accidental canapé handing out meeting go ? You don’t say if he acknowledge her or not ?
Maybe crudités and Roundup dip next time?

Maw

While I can understand how distressing it is for her, as her ex was emotionally abusive, but she is not on her own in dealing with him now. She is remarried to, I presume, a much nicer man, whom she will have told about the problems of her first marriage and who will be only too aware of the effect on her of finding her ex living in the same village.

With his support I think she should try to face her ex down and show him that he has no more power over her and try and organise her interests and activities so that as much as possible they do not meet and if they do, her new DH is with her.

With his support I think she should try to face her ex down and show him that he has no more power over her

That would only work if he acknowledged that what he did, ie moving to the same village, plus his previous behaviour, was an issue. Some never do.