Hello
This is my first post though I have been a member for a while and lurking.
My problem is with my DiL and I do know it's a common one - and I did have a tricky relationship with my own MiL so I have looked at it from both sides!
My DiL and son have recently moved back to the home town where other family also live and whilst lovely to have them closer she can be a very difficult character (as can most members of the family at times). They've been together 11 years.
I feel sad for her as she doesn't have close family (only child of parents who have both died) but she is gradually making everyone in the family go off her & making herself isolated.
She's often rude & opinionated and extremely loud in social situations, sometimes she argues with everything everyone says. Other times she is really kind and generous.
Her comments are difficult to stomach and she's always making insensitive jokes about me and OH as if we are ancient and bumbling old farts. (I'm 55 & she's only 10 years my junior!)
Myself and OH have chosen a simple low key life with part time work so we can spend time with the grandchildren (that are from my other kids) and she is frequently rude about our lack of disposable income. She works full time in a well paid job but I don't think it gives her the right to say 'You can't afford it!' when I talk about things.
I suppose I need a place to vent so hopefully you won't mind, she just upset me hugely this morning to the point of weeping for ages. (Yes, I am menopausal ...)
I have been doing my best to love her, she has lots of family issues, grief etc. but I find myself coming to a point where I almost wish my son would leave her!
Thanks for listening and I look forward to any advice!
