er.....stringvest, her part was to have her diary read and then for her husband to say HE'S upset. Her part was to have her privacy invaded and for him to feel aggrieved!
Sorry but in my book he needs to say sorry and she needs to have a bit of time to adjust to having her innermost thoughts read....when all she wanted to do was to write them down to help her process them and cope. A diary is really a cheap and effective way of having counselling. It allows you to have a bit of a moan, a rant and for it to hurt no one. She has nothing to regret or be forgiven for.
I agree that the two of them need to solve this and no doubt a little give and take will be needed but she has done nothing wrong.
Lor if we all went around telling our OHs all our inner most thoughts as and when they pop into our heads we would all be going mad. We all have things we cannot quite cope with, some are better solved by being discussed whilst the others need to be mulled over and allowed to drift away, especially when they are those complex ones that actually cannot be solved by anything we do. Those complex ones that are more about how our children's lives are progressing. As GPs we do find that we have to let our children live their lives, we cannot micro manage them as they move on into their 30s 40s and beyond. We still worry, we still care but we just have to let them live as they see fit and hope they make the right choices. Hence, the diary were thoughts and troubles can be unburdened yet drift away.