Partner raging all the time

I don't want to be a scaremongering but is his mental health OK?
My H got like this before they diagnosed bi-polar disorder. He can still blow up at times but medication keeps him mostly level.
Just a thought to consider. He won't want to be told this but maybe read up on it& see if symptoms fit.

Snowfall Sorry to hear that you are so unhappy and stressed. Do you actually know for certain what his isues are or not? Could it be health issues as some conditions do cause this sort of thing and even medications can too. A friend had Polymyalgia rheumatic and it changed him dramatically.
Such personality changes can also herald mental conditions such as dementia.

I concur with GabriellaG about recording the outbursts. If you haven't got a phone with a recording option then borrow one for a day or so from a younger friend or relative.

I wouldn't be sneaky about it though, I would tell your husband exactly what you'll be doing and you'll keep the evidence to let him listen to later. If it continues and he doesn't at least try to mend his ways I'd let others hear the recordings and what you have to put up with from the old so and so. Maybe embarrassment would be the key to him acknowledging that his actions have a huge impact on you. Good luck x

You say he has 'lots of reasons to be angry'.
Is it possible for you to tackle the reasons for his anger? It can't simply be drivers or cyclists.
Be sneaky and record his outbursts then replay them when he's calmer.

my husband had a personality change when he was about 70,he was nasty towards me,also when out driving.Looking back,I'm sure it was because he wasn't well,but he wouldn't talk about it if I asked him.He passed away a few months ago,after being in a care home,he had serious mobility problems,then cancer.We became very close again during his final years,and I remember our happy times,but I wish he hadn't been so nasty for a while.I'm sure it's to do with men not being well,and not liking to admit that their driving isn't what it was,they turn things round into being someone else's fault.

I have to put up with this all the time. We tried to go on holiday last Tuesday for 3 days, he encountered heavy traffic on M25 and turned round and went home again.

So I'm VERY sympathetic.

I hope your break will give you space to think clearly and to relax.

I cannot stand being around angry people, it makes me nervous and try to "fix" things. The rest of the time its on eggshells just in case, very tiring.

Thank you. Yes, it relates to a number of issues he has and a lot of treatment attempts over the years.

But the issue of respect is pertinent. I think that is the root of his anger issues with everyone.

I'm going to take a break away from him for my own sanity.

How awful for you having to put with this behaviour,does he realise how dangerous it is driving when so full of road rage.
As for his raging at you it is totally unacceptable and no one should have to put up with it I certainly wouldn't but then my OH has total respect for me something your OH seems lacking in.
Can he check if he is ill in anyway maybe a check up at your Drs to give you peace of mind or has he always been this way.
Remind him marriage is a two way street and if you decide to go it alone that street could be very lonely for him in the future.

How long have you been together?

This must be a very difficult situation. Is it possible that your partner is unwell in some way?

Does he treat you well most of the time, apart from these anger episodes?

I hope things go well for you.

No, it isn't just when driving. It seems constant, though we get some good days. It can be everyone and everything. He has a lot of reasons to be angry but it's getting me down. Yes, he knows it upsets me but just denies he does it or dismisses it. If I react angrily at the time it makes it worse, if I leave it till later then he denies it happen and points out that I never raised it at the time thus proving his point.

I think I know I have to end the relationship but still hoping for some miracle.

My husband has the road rage thing which is annoying. We have spoken about it and he tries to rein it in, not successfully. The raging against you is a whole different thing and needs to be addressed however difficult. Try to talk in a calm environment without recrimination and see if you can find out what are the triggers and why he is angry. Are you sure he understands fully how this is impacting on you.

DH was very grumpy for a time but he was very bored and unhappy- e moved house, he got some absorbing hobbies/jobs and he now whistles a lot which is annoying in itself.

Mr. S. gets annoyed with other drivers, not cyclists as a rule and never me I'm pleased to say.

We laugh about it because it's something he never used to do and is getting more frequent as he gets older. That said, I don't think I'd find it at all funny if he were raging at me.

Raging about other road users can be tiresome to listen too but having a go at you is a different matter. Perhaps telling him the next time he gets angry with you that if he does it again you wont go in the car with him, might be the answer.

Do you drive? Alternatively when going out maybe you could drive.