I think I have offended her

I think you are maybe taking this lady's reaction too much to heart. She may hate supermarket shopping, had a lot on her mind, adding up items, trying to find something to eat - sometimes I feel like screaming while I'm going round Sainsburys.........it's all such a rush and can't find what you want.

You are assuming too much, hang on in there until your next meeting and try to sum up the situation. She migght be one of those moody people though!!!

She may have been frantically thinking 'WHERE do I know her from??' and didn't want you to know she had forgotten, or she may have had something on her mind that was upsetting or worrying her. If she was friendly at the original meeting, then please don't torment yourself by feeling it was your fault - logically, how can it be?

I have a problem with facial recognition especially when meeting people out of context. DH will say something like "she is one of your specialist nurses" but she will not have had her uniform on so didn't recognise her.
DH has been known to drop me in it with old workmates and not mention their names so I am left floundering.

People often compartmentalise their lives. Meetings and social lunches are for chatting. Supermarkets are for getting out of as soon as possible without forgetting anything.
When I was younger (a lot) a man tried to chat me up in a supermarket by striking up a conversation about broccoli. A few days later I read an article in a paper giving advice to men about where to meet women and supermarkets was near the top of the list - the theory being that women like shopping so we're going to be in a good mood when doing it.
A hello is social for supermarkets so far as I'm concerned.

I was embarrassed when only recently I was approached by a lady who came up to me while in a supermarket touched my hand and said 'how are you? I could not place a face or name to this person and could only stutter 'I am ok how are you.? before she walked away. Weeks later at my GP surgery I saw this same lady who was in fact one of the practise nurses.

At the moment new relationships are more important to you than perhaps the others. Don't over interpret what you think was the lady's reaction to you. Maybe she was in a hurry or had other personal pressures. Think positive and soon you may be laughing at your thoughts here. In my experience, a deep friendship is arrived at slowly and surely. Good luck.

You don't know what's going on in her life. It's probably not about you at all. Just be normal and friendly next time you see her.

It is important not to take everything personally! She may have rushed on for reasons totally unconnected to you.
She said hello; she did not cut you dead.

Please try and forget it. If you start talking to her about it then she really is likely to be frightened off!!

She said hello then got on with her shopping.
Move along, nothing to see here..

You are probable a little sensitive, as you are feeling vulnerable and wishing to make new friends. Don’t worry about it, she will probably be just as friendly when you next meet her, and even if she isn’t, it’s not the end of the world.

Well I will let you all know what happens at our ne t meeting!

Some people, like me, have a poor memory for faces. I will recognise a face, but seeing them out of context fail to have any idea who they are or where I met them, unless I have known them a long time and seen them frequently.

DD has a similar problem and three months into new job is still struggling with recognising her new colleagues if she sees some of them in the canteen rather than the office.

I confess I often just say hallo in passing, if I see anyone I know in the supermarket. My mind is focused on my shopping list and the time.

In this situation,

Me too Sodapop I had a long conversation with a lady who gave me a big ‘hello how are you’ we talked for a good fifteen minutes and it gradually came back to me that I had worked with her years before we carried on talking and after another five minutes or so her Christian name came to me and I was able to say a Bye Jxxx but it was hours after at home that I managed to get her surname
I think you re being way oversensitive enjoy your next meet up Eebee

Don’t worry about it, if she was friendly towards you at lunch, perhaps she was just preoccupied at the shops.
See how she is at the next meeting, and take it from there.

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Saying hello is not cutting you dead. Maybe she was just in a hurry.

I agree with kittylester I am dreadful at recognising people out of context. I sometimes have a conversation hoping they will give me a clue who they are.

I do my supermarket shopping on auto-pilot. If I see somebody I know coming the other way, unless it's a person I really want to talk to (not someone I was chatting to the previous day as it's all been said) I make the usual, 'turned out nice again' comment about the weather and keep going.

The problem is you are likely to meet them coming down the next aisle again and again. The only way to avoid this is to either change your normal route around the shop which in my case means the automatic shopping list in my brain is thrown out of kilter and I go home without the things I really went in for, or peep round the top of each aisle to see if they're coming. Paying close attention to the ingredients on a bag of frozen chips with your head half down the freezer also works.

Supermarkets don't bring out the best in me. I've probably offended a lot of people.

If she was sitting next to you she may not have necessarily been looking at you all the time and may not have recognised you straight away - she may have felt embarrassed. Glad you've stopped stressing about it anyway - just carry on as normal when you next meet up.

Ah! Does she wear glasses? Sometime if I don't have my glasses on someone will say hi to me and I have no idea who they are until I get very close to them, then I feel rude for not acknowledging them.

Well it’s just that we had been sitting next to each other and chatting just the day before at lunch! I have met her before and she is not shy. Yes she might have been rushing or upset about something you are right! I will heed your advice and see how things go at the next meeting. Actually you have helped me to stop worrying somwhat, so thanks.

You can’t expect more than ‘hello’ in a supermarket from someone you have met once , allow time to get to know people

She was in a supermarket, said hello and moved on.

What did you expect her to do if she hardly knows you?

You will find it difficult to make new friends if you expect too much of them. Just relax and take things as they come.

I’m with kittylester. She probably knew she knew you from somewhere and couldn’t think where. So she moved on fast before she made a blunder.

Or she had other things to do and wasn’t up for a chat.

Actually I can’t think of anything more damaging to making new friendships than going to “confront” someone over what’s a fairly normal social exchange.

Don’t do anything!!!!