Not another one!

Well they sound delightful! Angry that their children's resident parent is raising them in their family homes.

Maybe your angry young nephews should focus on the kids now rather than being so angry at their exes that they can't see that it is best for THE CHILDREN for the resident parent to keep them in the family homes.

Why should the women and children be the ones to leave? Nobody involved in family support or family law would advise that.

Interesting that they are angry about their exes "getting the house". If it was my DH he would be much more preoccupied with making arrangements to have the KIDS half the time. But that I guess is one of the reaasons why I have no intention of leaving him

I d watch more TV Diane and stop worrying about your nephews as I said before none of your business really is it ? Their lives, their decisions to live as they see best you seem over interested in their lives, no one knows what goes on in others lives and neither should we
Concentrate on your own house and what goes on in it

In these 3 cases the women have all kept the house and left the husband significantly worse off and really angry. One of the wives had an affair and moved her new boyfriend in, another is actively hunting for the next husband, the third is concentrating on her career at present.
That leaves just one nephew that is still with his family, he is a character I don't much like and refuses to marry his girlfriend. He dominates her and regards their 3 kids as "her" children, they have been together for 15 yrs, live in a rented house, even though he has a well paid job and could afford to buy easily.
A lot of women would leave, but she is not stupid, it would mean benefits and she is much better off staying, he does maintain her and the children quite well and there are no signs of abuse. So she tows the line and stays, he leads pretty much the bachelor lifestyle and laughs openly at his divorced cousins.

I am am surprised at the amount of family that feel they can pass judgement on someone else's relationship. whether a mother, aunt or grandma, it really is non of your business. I would not have liked anyone interfering in my life, thankfully no one did. We all make mistakes that's how we learn, nice to have support if and when needed. There are two sides to every story anyway, I prefer not to judge. I do wonder if perhaps something is lacking in their own lives to worry about others if not asked.

Judging by some of the posts on Gransnet regarding the very selfish behaviour of older husbands, (resenting time spent with family, ignoring and refusing to care for sick wives, not contributing to household chores, expecting wives to maintain communications with family, etc, etc, etc) perhaps these issues are still occurring in some current marriages.

I don't suppose many women with young children would leave a marriage without good reason. Various pieces of research have shown that single mothers are significantly more likely to fall within the poverty category. And it must be really hard work trying to cope all one your own, often without a financial or practical contribution from a spouse.

No doubt you assume that your nephews are wonderful people ! But you don't know what goes on in people's homes - they could easily have sides to them that you don't know about.

I stop judging people if I were you. The life of a single mother is no fun, and I'm sure the women in question thought long and hard about separating. Maybe you could show a little charity instead of making nasty assumptions.

Oh its so easy to be a single mother...bet they're so glad that their plans have come to fruition and are now living the dream!

What a judgement! of course you can’t generalise like you just have Diana, really pretty nasty to say it could be all planned you haven’t a clue what goes on behind closed doors and you ve no idea if these young men are as nice as they show to the public or not Some men can have two sides and be charming courteous and smart to the outside world and a right bxxxxx to the wife
None of your business what your grandsons do when adults

you have no idea what has gone on behind closed doors so dont make judgements on these women.My daughter was in what appeared to be a good marriage until she discovered her OH was a serial cheat .His mother didn't believe it was his fault ,she thought my daughter was to blame ,even when she was told by one of the women he'd been sleeping with.Its normal to think our own are faultless but its rarely true so keep out of it and dont spread stories about young women when you only hear part of the story.

Certainly seems that younger parents split up fairly easily, they don’t appear to have much staying power!