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sufuller Thu 15-Nov-18 13:31:38

I don’t want to offend anyone but I’ve just discovered that my dh wees in the shower! It was mentioned on a tv programme and I asked dh if he ever did that and he admitted that he does when he’s caught short! I was shocked and I am no way a prude. What do others think of this?

janeainsworth Thu 15-Nov-18 20:10:16

cherrytree I think it’s called ‘Safe Toilet Syndrome’.
I’m ok with going behind a bush but like gonegirl wouldn’t dream of going in the shower. Yes water drains away but sometimes it collects at the edge of the shower tray. What’s so hard about having a wee before you get in the shower?
I do have a poop problem though. It preferably has to be my own toilet, or one where I can’t possibly be overheard by anyone else blush
It does sometimes cause, er, difficulties in hotels or in other people’s houses blush

Cherrytree59 Thu 15-Nov-18 20:07:33

It is something I'm used to M0nica
And yes I do restrict fluid intake when out and about.
On long walks I take banana or apples and suck mints.

As for a reason I'm not sure but goes back as far as childhood.

Baggs Thu 15-Nov-18 20:02:33

Apparently it's advised to wee on wounds when lost in the jungle or some such place

because urine is sterile as it leaves the body.

Cherrytree59 Thu 15-Nov-18 19:51:53

I was not in anyway criticising people for where they choose or need to relieve themselves.

It's not unusual when out on a ramble or just a walk in the countryside to have a bag passed to me while a fellow walker rushes behind a bush,
It doesn't bother me one iota.

I suppose I suffer from some kind of personal phobia. ?

M0nica Thu 15-Nov-18 19:44:19

Cherrytree, that must make life so difficult for you and restrict either your life or how much you drink (not a good idea). Do you know why you feel like this?

annsixty Thu 15-Nov-18 19:43:47

When water was very short a few years ago, it was government advice to wee in the shower instead of flushing if my memoryis correct.

PamelaJ1 Thu 15-Nov-18 19:42:19

Sufuller you’d better keep your flip flops on.
The ones with the very thick soles?.
Sorry I couldn’t find a flip flop emoji.

Lynne59 Thu 15-Nov-18 19:24:19

It's no big deal. I do it. It runs away, with the water from the shower. There are nastier habits to have....

gillybob Thu 15-Nov-18 19:06:56

Apparently it's advised to wee on wounds when lost in the jungle or some such place

And on jelly fish stings too gmelon

Many years ago in Ibiza we were warned that there was sometimes jellyfish on a small beach we were visiting . The tour guide said “the best way to deal with a jellyfish sting is to wee on them....this takes the sting away and sterilises the wound”. Needless to say I was badly stung and DH refused to do the honours . Said he wasn’t peeing on my arm in public, thank you very much !

BlueBelle Thu 15-Nov-18 18:58:14

You must have a camels bladder if you go to Australia without using a loo I ll have been about three times in that length of time
Well as you can see by this thread it isn’t a man thing it’s a normal reaction to running water and yes I ve weed in the sea and behind a bush oh er filthy me
If you can hover in a restaurant why can’t you hover in a train boat or plane ? Don’t get it I really don’t .

Cherrytree59 Thu 15-Nov-18 18:50:13

I have toilet aversion
(is that the right word??)
I can only wee in a clean toilet
Hotel or restaurant Yes (hovering of course)
Outside public loos No
Plane No (including flights to Australia)
Train/ coach No
I know people who can wee in the sea or behind a bush.
I physically cannot.

There was a similar thread on
the dark side Mumsnet regarding husband's or partners in the shower,
It would seem that weeing in the shower was not the only issue or in some cases
non-issue that Mners had regarding DH/DPs blush

BlueBelle Thu 15-Nov-18 18:38:18

I do everything in the shower each morning wash my hair, clean my teeth and wash if I have a wee all the better a good wash after a wee what more can you want??

Grammaretto Thu 15-Nov-18 18:36:55

I think it's the thought of it rather than the deed which puts you off. What the eye doesn't see the heart doesn't grieve over....

EllanVannin Thu 15-Nov-18 18:35:13

When there's a toilet next/near to the shower there's no excuse is there ?

gmelon Thu 15-Nov-18 18:34:33

Apparently it's advised to wee on wounds when lost in the jungle or some such place.
Feet were mentioned in particular.
Antiseptic properties?

Barmeyoldbat Thu 15-Nov-18 18:34:11

Don’t see the problem, you clean the shower after use and it’s all washed away.

BlueBelle Thu 15-Nov-18 18:32:22

Totally drinkable and can save lives if you’re in a place with no water it only becomes non sterile by being out of the body for a bit ( not sure whether it’s immediate or minutes or what) I d drink mine if had to wouldn’t want to drink anyone else’s though
Gonegirl you seem the only one in shock by this
In my case I get in the shower not necessarily feeling in need of the loo but the running water invites me Glad i m in line with most on here

Sparklefizz Thu 15-Nov-18 18:14:05

Not "drinkable" by me, thanks hmm

Luckygirl Thu 15-Nov-18 18:10:46

Can't see the problem - have done it occasionally myself. Sterile (indeed drinkable!) wee is washed away in a fleeting moment by the shower water.

Gonegirl Thu 15-Nov-18 16:46:31

grin Don't make it worse!

gmelon Thu 15-Nov-18 16:44:23

Oh, now I see.
I thought he was weeing in the shower when caught short.
Fully clothed.

Marmight Thu 15-Nov-18 16:38:08

Can't see a problem. It's just wee and gets washed down the drain by gallons of water and presumably the shower is cleaned regularly. When I was a student in France I had a room in the attic with an en suite basin and bidet and the ghastly, smelly stop and stand loo was down the corridor. I always peed in the bidet! Does that make me a bad person? I don't think so hmm

suzied Thu 15-Nov-18 16:33:49

Wee is sterile isn't it? Nothing wrong with weeing in the shower - all traces will be washed away and it saves water you'd other wise use flushing the loo. You probably wash lots of bacteria off your skin and hair as well in the shower.

Sparklefizz Thu 15-Nov-18 16:28:55

Thanks Monica re the grey water explanation. I knew someone would put me right if applicable.

Gonegirl Thu 15-Nov-18 16:17:02

Ah yes! The compost heap. That's different. There's a good reason for that.