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I think Monica is referring to a post I tried to read earlier today that was definitely TLDR.

I skipped that post too! The length of it out me off. I'm sure there are ways to be more concise.

What is TLDR ?

I'm glad you brought this up. I too just give up on threads like that. I suppose the OP is venting more than anything else.

I'm so relieved that I'm not the only one who gives up. Yes, I'm sure the op is venting and putting things down in a rush to get it all out, so perhaps that, in itself, benefits them.

My eyes won't follow long text without some sort of break between the lines. I lose my place.

Annie I think it's Too Long Didn't Read - or something like that!

I agree. If it's the post I'm thinking of then the poster will think we are an uncaring bunch when it is really a poorly put problem. I'd rather have each sentence having it's own paragraph - iyswim.

Thank you Squiffy I need paragraphs else I get confused

If you mentioned who the poster is/was then said poster would adhere to what is acceptable and wouldn't do it again ?
One only learns by their mistakes,right ?

I didn't read it for the reasons above.

I nearly posted on the thread itself, but felt it was unfair to seemingly target one distressed member, about what is a common pattern with these kinds of posts.

I really am not trying to 'get' at anyone and I understand that these are often posters in distress, but I, like many others want to help and support these individuals. but, sadly, often are unable to do so because to have complex family problems explained in long undifferentiated prose that ends up being almost incomprehensible, makes that impossible.

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We are all different. If that's their style then so be it. If you find it too difficult move on.
I had previously read it. I did find it a little difficult to keep up with but I don't see any reason to make someone feel more distraught than they already are.
Now I am feeling very wary on how I write on here.

Googoogool
I think the whole point of the OP of this thread was to advise not criticise.
You say "if you find it too difficult move on" posters are saying they didn't want to move on that's the whole point, they wanted to give support/sympathy etc. but the style made it difficult to do.

Of course we want to support those in difficulty.
It's the making a poster very uncomfortable, having came on here in the first place, that I find difficult. If it was my post being commented on I would be devastated.
Perhaps a style can't be changed particularly at a stressful time. "Move on" without pointing out (our problems reading it) seems preferable to me.

Thank you Nina for putting it so clearly and succinctly.

Googoogoo1 No-one is trying to make the poster uncomfortable. Far from it!

Nina has summed it up completely.

I guess not everyone is familiar with "word documents". Not sure I am to be honest. Punctuation, paragraphs, etc. Might not come easily to everyone. Would be a shame if anyone was put off posting with a problem because they feel they do not have enough writing skills.

Absolutely agree Gonegirl but on the other hand some of us are visually compromised and that is where my particular comment was coming from, rather than a complaint about the OP.

Nice public discussion here about a new poster. Well done. Could have posted that you would send a PM and then sent one with some kind advice.

I daresay someone has already done so maryeliza

Well if the OP had done that rather than start a thread which others then joined in with the whole thing could have been avoided.

No, not about a new poster, about a type of post, quite a lot of people do.