Limerence ..... the shame and embarrassment of it

I think the OP just wanted to hear other people's experiences as reassurance that she was not the only one. Talking openly about these things can help. I doubt if there would be anything very lascivious or shocking about it?

That’s naive Gonegirl do you realise that some posts appear in the Daily Mail Would you really want that if you were embarrassed about something
Of course talking openly about difficult subjects is good but not on a public forum where you have no idea who is reading
And from the opposite side we have been conned before we have had people trying to (seemingly innocently) prise information and sensitive stories from us

It's always anonymous though isn't it? Real names are never used.

When people write to agony aunts in magazines, isn't that the same thing? Isn't this just another way of sharing and getting advice?

Just thinking aloud now. ?

And I'm now off up the wooden hill. Night.

OP said she would love to know if others had stories to tell. She herself, however, didn’t go into any detail about her own “story”. Interesting.

I'm not sure what good would have come out of anyone relating their own experiences. Aren't all crushes that never had a chance of turning into something real going to be much the same? Someone invades your head and your heart for a while. Sooner or later, you realise the futility of it all. You buckle down to your normal life, manage the pain and move on. Most people have been there.

I think most of us know, even when we are going through it that it is all just a phase and will eventually go.

Why use an unknown (to most i imagine?) word in the title of the OP? Does it make it more arresting, so everyone will read it? Seems like a ploy but one that didn’t really work.

I still remain convinced that this thread was a have-on.

Well, if it was, the original post was pretty realistically worded. I am totally convinced it was genuine.

Most of the disruptive threads have been the same.

Why should this one have been disruptive?

If I may raise my head above the parapet, plausible does not always equate to genuine.

First - Limerance - the shame and embarrassment. I doubt one of us knew what that meant and the second phrase makes it sound like it might mean a special type of incontinence, 'womens problem' or such like. Not someone finding themselves totally overwhelmed and obsessed by one person, but conscious that what they were going through was inexplicable at any level and embarrassing to themselves

Two - no outburst that makes it clear what the problem means, what had happened to her and how distressed she was/is. Look at any of the posts from genuinely distressed OPs, several have posted today, and, with due respect, they write screeds and often incoherently.

Thirdly - the request for our stories - just doesn't fit with someone consumed with shame and embarrassment over something that has happened to them.

The whole thing is too neat, too all together and pat and uninformative for a genuine post.

I find it interesting (no more than that) that HQ has not jumped on the doubters from a great height to tell them they weren't playing nicely, but has left them to discuss their doubts.

...most people have been there. Good post, Oakleaf. It's normal. Just one of life's interesting diversions, surely.

I'm sceptical about the OP too.
But why would anyone want to mislead in this way? Very strange.

Who knows why anyone would fabricate a post (and without witnessing it ourselves, we can't say whether any post is true or not) ?

A journalist needing data for a piece might seed the mine with a hint of a personal story, hoping that others would post their own experiences, A sprat to catch a mackerel? We know that some newspapers like to run sensational stories about pensioners.

You have to ask yourself why would anyone make up a thread about a phone call talking about a dead mother Why would someone make up a thread about their gay grandson being bullied because he wore fake ugg boots why does someone make up a thread about Daughter in laws or mother in laws ....boredom, stirring, a laugh,.... who knows but they do unfortunately, and because of them some innocent people may get sidelined which is a big shame

In response to the OP's original post. Yes, I understand limerence. I went through that at her age though luckily for me the overwhelming feelings were for my H: I felt like I did when we first met, it was all-encompassing and strange to experience again after 30 years together. As some posters have suggested I do think there is a surge of hormones around the early 50s which accounted for my emotions going into overdrive just like when I was a teenager.

Now in my early 60s I have recently enjoyed 2 unexpected and rather delicious crushes: one for our plumber and the other for the guitarist in my H's band. It seems ridiculous at my age and so to deflect ridicule I confessed to my H and openly joked to friends about these two crushes. That helped and they quickly faded but I did enjoy them while they lasted.

Well actually, a chap at our 50s+ club fancied me and kept leaving his phone no etc. In a general chat, he was proudly saying he doesn't drink wine, nor alcohol. I didn't fancy a date , drinking cups of tea?

Granny H50, I don’t understand why you are embarrassed about this, just because we are getting a little older it doesn’t mean that our thoughts or feelings have changed to when we were younger, I have had this it made me feel young again.
It didn’t hurt anyone because I didn’t tell anyone or act on it.

Please don't let that offend anybody!