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Limerence ..... the shame and embarrassment of it

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GrannyH50 Sat 08-Dec-18 19:57:04

I’ve just gone through this and it wasn’t pleasant.
Please can I ask if anyone else has gone through this?
I’ve only recently been able to put a name to it and am embarrassed to post admitting it. I’m happy to say I’m at the tail end but I’m married, I’m 51 years of age and although I’ve had silly ‘crushes’ occasionally I thought I’d done with it all, if I’m honest.
Please don’t judge, I’m pretty normal and boring but would love to know if any others have any stories to tell, thanks 😩

Izabella Sat 08-Dec-18 20:00:43

😲

Marydoll Sat 08-Dec-18 20:14:37

I had to Google it! confused

GrannyH50 Sat 08-Dec-18 20:17:47

@Mary doll, I’ve only just recently got a name for it myself.
Please .....Anyone out there? Like I say im at the tail end (thank goodness) am a little embarrassed 😞 but well I suppose I’m looking for moral support.

Cherrytree59 Sat 08-Dec-18 20:18:12

Maybe not very helpful
On the dark side MN
Limerence is often discussed.tchsmile

Lynne59 Sat 08-Dec-18 20:20:32

I'd never heard of that word, and I had to look it up. No, I've no experience of it.

GrannyH50 Sat 08-Dec-18 20:21:39

Thanks Cherry, at least you knew what I was talking about 👍

GrannyH50 Sat 08-Dec-18 20:22:30

@Lynn, you learn something every day 😀

Anniebach Sat 08-Dec-18 20:23:36

What is it? I am not going to google , it could be similar to when I googled bandage , well thought I had googled bandage

boheminan Sat 08-Dec-18 20:26:29

After being in a long relationship with a Narcissist, yes I can fully understand what limerence can mean

GrannyH50 Sat 08-Dec-18 20:27:15

Bless you Annie, I wouldn’t want to shock you. Thanks for making me smile though 😊

GrannyH50 Sat 08-Dec-18 20:28:20

What are you suggesting?

TerriBull Sat 08-Dec-18 20:30:33

Annie you need to distinguish your a from your o. Clearly if you mix them up it can get you in all sorts of trouble grin

I thought limerence might be something to do with liquorice, but clearly it isn't, only I never liked liquorice much but that never embarrassed me confused

oldbatty Sat 08-Dec-18 20:30:58

I suggest a mug of Horlicks and an early night.

MawBroon Sat 08-Dec-18 20:31:03

We have had a thread on this before and my reaction is why give it a silly pseudo scientific name? confused
(Going off to Search)

MawBroon Sat 08-Dec-18 20:33:06

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GrannyH50 Sat 08-Dec-18 20:33:48

I was looking for support here, not judgement.
I feel bad enough as it is and now I’ve tears in my eyes.
This has really upset me.

MawBroon Sat 08-Dec-18 20:38:00

I suggest you read right through the previous thread including the origins of the term.
What we used to call a “crush” (when we were young and foolish)

phoenix Sat 08-Dec-18 20:39:47

Bit breezy again today.

GrannyH50 Sat 08-Dec-18 20:42:00

What a bunch of nasty women.

MawBroon Sat 08-Dec-18 20:42:18

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Charleygirl5 Sat 08-Dec-18 20:44:41

I have never heard of the wors so I have googled it and no it has never happened to me, sorry I cannot help.

BlueBelle Sat 08-Dec-18 20:44:57

Is that it ? Never heard of it by that fancy name Why not call it what it is
Is someone trying to get people to tell their stories

oldbatty Sat 08-Dec-18 20:46:27

I once had a terrible crush on my PE teacher at Roehampton.

Does that count?

Bathsheba Sat 08-Dec-18 20:48:09

I'm sorry, GrannyH50 but I'm afraid I'm with Maw on this. Giving credence to it by calling it 'limerence' - total psychobabble in my opinion - just encourages people to think of it somehow as being understood and endorsed by psychologists, something one should be able to 'get help for'.
You had a teenage crush, which you really should be able to deal with at your age.