Should I go on a playdate with Single Dad?

It depends a bit how old your children are. If they are young you could meet in a park but if they are teenagers it is probably best just for the two of you to meet. Take it slowly and see how the relationship evolves. Good luck and wishing you every happiness.

Sure you haven’t wandered onto the wrong forum shouldn’t you be on Mumsnet ?

Thanks mumof madboys. Kids are both 7/8 .girl and boy

Do grown ups go on “play dates”?

BlueBelle just wanted an opinion from here as I know thus website gives good advice about kids

Do you mean a date or do you mean a play date for your kids?
“Play date” when applied to adults is too coy and twee.

Playdate for our kids. It's basically myself and this guy meeting up at the playground to bring our kids to play

I suppose it's good to have both sets of children together. I'd give it a go and see how you all get on.

Yes. If your children are young enough for a park they will probably see this new person as just another adult who "belongs" to the other children. I doubt they'd think more than that.
And at least you'll see how the children get on.
Good luck.

Read the book "Thursdays in the Park" and subtract a few decades from the ages of the main players

I don't see what the problem is "boy meets girl" comes in many shapes and forms and if children are part of the equation, well, that's just part of life too.

Good luck with your new friendship!

A very well thought out approach to let the children get to know each other. This way, after a few play dates, the children will accept that you both meet up without them now and again.

Just take it slowly and follow your instinct as to where the friendship will lead. Good luck

Only you can tell how you feel about him yet it might be very useful to see how he is with the children and theybwith him. It can say a lot about a person’s true character.
If you have any doubts after that, trust your instincts.

This really is something only you can answer unless you just want general advice which I m sure you already know
Go somewhere public not off the beaten path
Let friends or family know where you’re going
Make it very vague to the kids ( if they are involved) as you don’t want them making lifelong friends and then you decide you don’t like him so they lose their friends
Keep it to a short meeting for the first few time maybe an hour or two testing the water
See how he behaves with his kids if you do a kids date (although he may be on best behaviour)
Ask yourself why you didn’t end up with him twenty years ago
All normal common sense that you would have applied before you met the kids dad

Sorry to be facetious (must be the New Year influence) but my first thought was, "It depends what games the pair of you will be playing."

BlueBelle thanks for your advice. 20 years ago I only knew him as 'one of the group' so we never went out on our own. Then we took different paths in life.

My advise would be to meet him both on your own and at "play dates" with both yours and his children.
Don't rush into anything, see how things go for a couple of months before you start a relationship.
I hope it works out for you.

Elegran We were only meeting at the playground so the kids could play together

Buffybee good idea. Thanks.

Nicola7722 It was the title of the thread that I saw first!

If you don’t meet up again how will you find out where if any where it is going.
If you meet up with kids on occasion it allows you to introduce ‘ a friend’ without having to go into too much detail unless & until you ended up a relationship with this man , best wishes

Elegran you are right...title a bit misleading

Please let us know how it goes, if you want to.

Mumofmadboys I definitely will

Why would you involve your children at this very early stage of dating? The fact that you're both single parents doesn't mean that the kids have to come along.