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The Duchess of Sussex and her father

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DillytheGardener Sun 10-Feb-19 16:01:50

Read the latest in sad state of affairs between Meghan and her father today with sadness.

Her letter seemed so reasonable and made good points, her father has behaved in such an abominable way towards his daughter. Rather than pulling his head in after the stupid staged shots he was paid for, apologised and kept quiet till it all blew over he's dug his heels in and embarrassed her time and time again.

I'm not surprised her friends came out in support, even if she did direct it. Has the press no memory of how poor Diana and Fergie were berated and bullied? The idiot rags like the Daily Mail and the Sun are really going for it to make their money. I feel so sorry for her and hope it doesn't affect her pregnancy with all the stress.

I don't understand why the public seem to want her to reconcile with him. He obviously can't be trusted and she's wise to stay well clear, that side of the family is unhinged. Half brother with a DUI and domestic abuse, the other sister seems disturbed, her own daughter cut her off for goodness sakes and by the looks of it for good reason.

Harry was always my favourite, he's a bit older than my two children, but I always felt for him after Diana died. He was such a little mite behind the coffin.

Chewbacca Sun 17-Feb-19 19:22:11

What is a coordinating conjunction please?
Is it where 3 lines of traffic are merging into 2 and then into 1? Like on the M6 heading north? hmm

paddyann Sun 17-Feb-19 19:19:40

Oh Annie We ALL have lifetimes of duty ,dont we.We have responsibilities to parents and partners and children and jobs AND we have to make a living and put a roof over heads and food on a table EVERY day ,None of us gets paid a fraction of what they get for actually working longer hours, harder work and still having all the family responsibility at the end of it And no frequent paid for holidays masquerading as royal tours !.I'm sorry I just dont "get" how anyone thinks this system is in any way shape or form RIGHT in the 21st century .I dont know anyone who does think the Monarchy should still exist or who gives a toss about them except when we hear how much they cost

Iam64 Sun 17-Feb-19 17:12:03

coordinating conjunctions - how terrifying. Is that one of Michael Gove's things that primary school children have to learn now Anja? What is a coordinating conjunction please?

Anja Sun 17-Feb-19 16:25:44

OW lighten up. Think of tongue in cheek ? This thread is just going round in circles so (!) just poking the ? nest with a stick, for fun.

PECS Sun 17-Feb-19 16:21:34

So any successful writer will know that you can throw away many of the restrictive grammar rules and still write an excellent novel!

Bridgeit Sun 17-Feb-19 16:02:26

Starting a sentence with ‘so’ is so ‘now’ & down with the dudes!
‘Right on ‘ ladies especially those who were ‘ hey man’ ing it in the 60 ?

Oldwoman70 Sun 17-Feb-19 15:59:23

Oh please Anja have you had a sense of humour by-pass!

Anja Sun 17-Feb-19 15:31:12

#justsaying

Anja Sun 17-Feb-19 15:30:27

I’d have thought it might perhaps be a coordinating conjunction?

Anja Sun 17-Feb-19 15:28:23

Starting a sentence with ‘so’ is using it as an adverb? ?

icanhandthemback Sun 17-Feb-19 15:06:20

Their wealth doesn’t trouble me, the thought of a life time of duty ? No thank you

A lifetime of duty in a goldfish bowl...albeit a large one. Nope, not for me either. All that protocol would drive me insane.

Anniebach Sun 17-Feb-19 13:19:24

Day6, confidence yes, one would need that to become a tv
Actress, intellegence ? There are intelligent women in the royal family, think the difference is Americans can talk the talk, and Kate is as you say middle class British .

Also Kate has to prepare for her furture role as queen consort and mother of a heir to the throne , she can’t put herself to the fore as does her sister in law . I don’t see that as being cowed , it is just accepting what goes with the job.

William has learned from a young age what goes with the job too.

Their wealth doesn’t trouble me, the thought of a life time of duty ? No thank you

PECS Sun 17-Feb-19 12:56:43

I have 2 sisters in law. One I would be happy to see on a daily basis, the other I can be friendly to if I only see her occasionally! I am still close to my brothers! All families have different ways of handling relationships and distance and different stages that kids are at can make it difficult to maintain close /regular get togethers. It seems that some people are seeking out rifts and troubles where none may exist. Possibly just a man is realising he has limited future choices whereas his younger brother has wider horizons! We might all be a bit pissed off at that!

Day6 Sun 17-Feb-19 12:23:53

I think while Will was around Harry always had a confidant and a brother as a friend. Even when he married Kate they seemed a happy, friendly threesome. Kate and Harry seemed very relaxed together too. Yes, to onlookers Will seems to be fast becoming more like his serious father. Charles has always seemed quite formal.

The press suggest a rift between the brothers. In truth I imagine William becoming a father and spending more time at home with Kate changed his outlook. Harry sought a wife, and found one.

I have no idea if Will and Kate enjoy Meghan's company but I imagine her American influences, feminist traits, confidence and intelligence might have taken some getting used to in royal circles. I doubt very much if she will be cowed by royal protocol. It could be a stumbling block if she doesn't accept the restrictive gilded cage of royalty. Middle class British Kate may have adapted more easily,

Now Harry and his wife are moving away, having a child of their own and leading life away from the Windsor heirs. it happens to most families - distance between siblings once they marry. I hope the brothers retain their closeness. Most mothers/fathers hope for that for their own children as they grow up.

Anniebach Sun 17-Feb-19 11:33:33

what ever is going on i think William looks troubled , he is 36, yet looks middle aged

Oldwoman70 Sun 17-Feb-19 10:50:13

I wasn't upset either (walks away sobbing quietly to herself) grin

Anniebach Sun 17-Feb-19 10:48:19

sunseeker I certaintly wasn’t upset ?

sunseeker Sun 17-Feb-19 10:45:22

mcem I was not "criticising" posters - my post was aimed at Anniebach and Oldwoman neither of whom appear to have been upset by it. If my little joke did offend someone then I apologise.

Anniebach Sun 17-Feb-19 10:20:35

Having a member of my family with ‘issues’, three years ago I wasn’t invited to a family wedding, neither were my daughters and my grandchildren,it hurt so much , one of my daughters was Godmother of the bride, the bride’s mother was Godmother to one of my grandchildren and the bride’s grandmother is my sister . A few months before we all went to a family wedding and no problems with my family member with ‘issues ‘.

mcem Sun 17-Feb-19 10:15:26

sunseeker please write 50 lines "I must ask myself if a poster might be dyslexic before criticising" (even jokingly)!

PECS Sun 17-Feb-19 10:12:10

It seems it is all about money! I can imagine a scenario: A relative that you have had a tentative relationship with, maybe even disliked, hits the big time & has way more money than you! Jealousy creeps in, $$ signs in your eyes..media offer cash for comments etc. Easy to play the cinderella story to the mean stepsister... but I do not know what is real and what is a lie. Only the people involved know that.

Anniebach Sun 17-Feb-19 10:08:23

sunseeker ok

‘So I will cheque my posts for speling and gramer before posting em ‘ ?

Anniebach Sun 17-Feb-19 10:05:17

Starlady, thinking of Americans and their admiration of the royals perhaps not jealousy but excitement , in America she is called princess Megan. The royal family are celebrities in America same as movie stars, many of those have no problem with washing their dirty linen in public.

Then the Markles realise they are a ‘no no’, hurt and anger ?

sunseeker Sun 17-Feb-19 10:00:40

Anniebach and Oldwoman - you now have to write 50 lines saying "I will check my posts for spelling and grammar before I post them" grin

Sparklefizz Sun 17-Feb-19 09:59:56

The quote from Starlady above was supposed to be in italics. It's not my post.