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Over sensitive?

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nipsmum Thu 09-May-19 10:08:52

Unfortunately there are laws that say you must be allowed time off for parental duties but that does not cover duties for your mother. I'm sorry you require this medical treatment but if you have stents put in the hospital will probably keep you in more than overnight. If no one can pick you up on discharge they can arrange a taxi for you to take you home. Independence is a great thing to have as everyone is so busy now.

annep1 Thu 09-May-19 10:01:37

I agree with grammaretto. We tend to play things down a bit in case we worry our children and then are hurt at feeling negkected. I think too, that our children don't see us getting older and having serious health problems. My son rings and asks jokingly "So who's not well today?"
I hope all goes well for you Anne107. Personally I would prefer to stay overnight. I think we are sent home too quickly nowadays after all sorts of ops/ tests.

Doodle Thu 09-May-19 10:00:10

anne it’s really nice you live so close to your family. I live quite close to mine too but would hate the thought that they would just pop in without warning. All families are different. Some are happy wandering in and out of each other’s homes. DH and I like to know when we are expecting visitors. We hardly ever just drop in on our children but would usually be invited or phone first.
I think as others do, you son cannot just take a day off work like that. People have commitments they can’t always drop and you don’t know what his plans are. Also, perhaps they assume that living so close to you they don’t need to stay overnight with you but could pop over if you need them. Hope everything goes well with your op and you make a good and speedy recovery ?

sodapop Thu 09-May-19 09:04:19

I think you are feeling vulnerable at the moment understandably so Anne107 so seeing hurt where none was intended. I would always check first before calling in on my family like Buffybee. Your son has work committments and is trying to help.
I hope all goes well for you and you have a speedy recovery.

Eglantine21 Thu 09-May-19 08:28:08

If work won’t give him Friday off I don’t really see what he can do, other than risk his job or make things very difficult in the workplace at least.

It isn’t a measure of how much he cares but what he can actually do, what his employer will allow.

Perhaps if you can see it like that it will take some of the hurt away.

Maggiemaybe Thu 09-May-19 08:27:11

It sounds to me as though it’s out of your son’s control. It’s not always easy, or even possible, to get time off work at short notice. I’m sure he’d have the time off to help you if he could, and this is no reflection on his feelings for you. Try not to dwell on it. Best wishes with the op. thanks

Buffybee Thu 09-May-19 08:24:14

I presume that if you are staying in hospital on Friday night that your Son will be able to pick you up on Saturday.
I do think that you are being over sensitive.
My Son and Daughter would do most things for me but sometimes because of work, they can't do and I accept that and deal with things myself.
As far as the having to knock on their door or making an appointment to go across the road to their house to see the Gc, I think that is fine, just give them a call to see if they're free at the the moment or if you can come around some time today to see them all.
I would prefer to do that, than walk in when they're all very busy or getting ready to go out.
Wishing you good luck with the operation on Friday and a very speedy recovery. flowers

Grammaretto Thu 09-May-19 08:16:24

You poor soul! I wonder if you can ask a friend to assist? Maybe you've played down the importance of this so your son's family have thought of it as an inconvenience rather than a frightening and potentially serious procedure.
I would be just as upset as you.flowers

Anne107 Thu 09-May-19 08:03:38

I have to have cardio angiogram with possibly 3 stents this Friday- i was supposed to have this last week Friday but after waiting all day in ward with two other ladies we eventually were sent home due to the amount of emergencies of people coming in with heart attacks. My son had arranged to collect me from the hospital although I still would have no one staying with me overnight. He only lives practically across the road with his wife and three children who I adore but always feel I must make appointment before I knock or wish to see the grandchildren- I can accept that - but I feel hurt he was unable to collect me this Friday. He said it was difficult- I was speaking to him last night and he was saying he had yesterday off & has today off and Saturday off but could not get Friday off - I cannot help feeling hurt. Mind you the hospital have now arranged for me to stay overnight which in a way I am relieved as at least there are staff there to keep eye out. I know it’s not a major op but still feel hurt - do you think I am overthinking/ over sensitive?