My son and DIL have a gorgeous 2yr girl. She doesn't sleep through the night, DIL still breast-feeding, so GD wakes umpteen times for feed. DIL is exhausted.
My frustration is that DIL keeps saying she wants to give up breast-feeding, and is desperate for GD to sleep through the night. But, does nothing about it at all. As is her right.
However, I look after my GD once a week so son and dil can have a day together. I regularly get calls from my son saying my DIL is exhausted/ill, he has to work, can I have my GD/go round and help etc. And if I can I do. I've recently had a prolonged period of ill-health, thankfully much better now, but it has meant that I've said no on occasion.
I am not a natural martyr, and I am beginning to feel frustrated.
Last week I went over to help one day, had them over. friday and sunday. Monday I get a call, can I have GD as DIL ill, exhausted. I had a hair appointment, but offered to go afterwards and suggested another family member might help before that. They said no to that.
This was not received well. My offer to have GD on Tuesday and or Weds was not responded too. A family member told me that they had felt I let them down when they really needed me, just for a hair appointment.
And to some extent they are right. However the cause of the problem is within their gift to solve and they refuse to address it. And I have to admit, there was a part of me that thought sod it, I'm not giving up my hair appointment because DIL is tired, she'll be just as tired tomorrow and I am free then.
However I also feel like I'm being horrible and selfish as well as worrying that by 'helping' I'm enabling the situation to continue. Or am I just trying to justify my mean behavior?
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