My 2 sons break my heart. They both have drink and drug problems, and I really cannot cope with the upset this causes for myself and the rest of the family.
The youngest rarely gets in touch, and I can't contact him as he constantly changes his mobile number, or smashes his phone up in temper. He has a condition that makes his temper unpredictable and it has been directed at me in the past, but refuses to take his medication and has major drug and drink issues which are already impacting on his health. Nothing I say makes any difference. He does have a support worker, but really can't be bothered with him either. Although I worry about him I realise I can do nothing to change his way of life.
The eldest son is now 40, and has been in trouble with the police more times than I can remember, and caused upset and embarrassment for the family since he turned 13. He has also stolen from me, and been abusive and threatening towards me for years.
I've just come through extensive cancer treatment (I'm not asking for sympathy), and it has made me realise that I deserve to enjoy the time I have left. My life has been very difficult and I want peace now.
The problem is my eldest son is still very much effecting my wellbeing with his constant demands, negativity, moaning and threatening behaviour. He recently threatened to smash all my windows, which he has done before although many years ago.
Recently he said he doesn't want anymore to do with me and to stick my money up my a.se. He will undoubtedly be back, and with no apology.
Although I love him I really cannot take anymore, but what do I do when he turns up? He won't listen if I say I'm not putting up with anymore. He can be very selfish and very good at meeting his own needs while ignoring the fact other people have needs also.
I really feel like telling him to stay away if he turns up, although he frightens me. I have already blocked his calls and texts because they were abusive and upsetting.
Am I being unreasonable to say I am done, and I have had enough?
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