Confront sister about greed or let it rest

It's far too late for that. Those things belonged to your mother. If she chose, for whatever reason, to give them to your sister it was her choice.
I live with that.

I think that you should ask your sister for a fair share for the sake of equity. Do it when you are both calm and see how she reacts. Its not her by right and if she refuses then that's that. Yo can't have a good relationship while this lies between you.

Two choices Mebster you either confront your sister and tell her how you feel about this or you forget about it. As its clearly an issue for you it may be better to have it out with her. In doing so you risk causing a rift which may not heal.

Mebster Are you hoping your sister or her son will offer these things back as gifts or for sale? Does a leopard change its spots?

Acknowledge that they have, effectively gone. They are no longer your property why continue to fret about it?

If you are not bothered about the sentimental value then its clearly the monetary gain of the gold that irks you.

My mother told me many of the antiques and jewellry my auntie took were worth a fortune (no doubt why she was so wealthy) but if she was not prepared to fight for them at the time, as she clearly wasn't, why continue to fuss?

You'll do yourself no good picking at the wound. Move on.

"by handing over", not "but handing over"

"Stuff" can go out of the family in the blinking of an eye . My Dad had a beautiful collection of musical boxes which he'd bought and restored to their former glory. After he died, Mum used to "pay" people for giving her a lift , or for helping with her shopping, but handing over one of these priceless boxes. Sis and I were shocked to find Dad's precious boxes had all gone - we just had to swallow it and move on.

In your situation I'd try to let it go. You say that you've tried to overlook this - I assume that you mean you knew what she was doing at the time but said nothing. There isn't any point in raising it now - you'd only demean yourself .

We are talking items of major value, as in lots of gold jewelry. I'm not interested in sentimental items but her son is hovering, waiting to sell off all her stuff. It's quite difficult for me to maintain a loving relationship with a sister who made every possible attempt to cheat me out of my share. I know a lot of these items were taken after our mom had dementia. Sis wants to be close now but I find resentment getting in the way. She's acknowledged her greedy behavior but never offered anything back.

My mother and her sister had exactly the same problem.

My auntie, knowing Mum's reaction said she would split the big dinner and tea services and canteens of cutlery but Mum told her that was terrible and to take it all. So she did but Mum resented it all her life.

The only thing Mum got of any sentimental (or actual?) value was my grandfather's ebony drumsticks.
He had been in the King's Own Scottish Borderers but died in 1947.

In 1991, when Mum was terminally ill, Auntie (7 years younger and very wealthy) came to visit, saw the drumsticks on Mum's dressing table and said, 'Oh, I'll take these, my son will love them and you only have girls.'
(I had sons btw)

And Mum, after years of raging about her sister's greed, meekly let her take them!

So if you are going to resent your sister's greed Mebster please don't let it eat away at you as it did with my mother.

It's just 'stuff'.
Unless it had particular sentimental value, which doesn't seem to be the issue, I would let it go.

Presumably your mum chose to give what she did to who she did, which is just as it should be.

I think you are on a hiding to nothing here. It is hard to see family heirlooms go without being able to save them. I had a friend who had to watch as every family heirloom from an illustrious great grandfather was sold completely outside the family. It nearly broke his heart, but there was nothing he could do except add to the family problems that already existed.

I do not think your problem is any different, nothing you can do can get the items back for you and to be seen scrabbling for them is undignified and could make you seem pathetic and, if there is family animosity, those causing it can be delighted that the loss has upset you so.

Confronting your sister is unlikely to have a happy outcome for anyone, so I think you need to just leave it in the past.

the only person this is hurting is you so let the bitterness go ,its only things after all and it should be left in the past where it belongs