Trivial compared to some other Gransnetter's problems, but here goes.
DH hasn't been happy in his job for a few years, but didnt bother to look for something else.
Now a new manager started in January, since he arrived he has taken exception to DH, his manner with customers on the phone etc - admittedly, room for improvement but no other complaints until the manager arrived.
Fast forward to last Saturday, when I signed for a recorded delivery letter for DH. Something didnt seem right, he said it was to do with his pension, increased payments. Really? He seemed very evasive and his the letter. I challenged him, he told me repeatedly to my face it was his pension....eventually he admitted it had been going on for months at work, he was dismissed on Thursday and sent home. The letter was just confirmation.
We had arranged a home loan to get some essential repairs done to the house - we still have a mortgage too, so none of that will be happening now.
Of course I'm upset about his dismissal - incensed, in fact, because had he told me as it was unfolding, I could have done something to help.
I'm so upset about him lying to me - repeatedly, to my face. He did this before, at the start of our relationship, 15 years ago (he was in some considerable debt which he hid from me and I didnt find out until after he moved in with me - I sorted it out on his behalf but did not contribute to the debt in the first place or pay anything towards it - at his insistence).
He now seems to think that by promising me he will get a job and reapply for the home loan next year or the year after, everything will be ok. The idea was that we pay it off over 5 years and then I would pay it off with some of my lump sum - I retire in a few years. By waiting the problems with the house will be worse, we wont be able to pay as much off and the lump sum left will be smaller.
I'm really upset that he lied though? He said he was hoping to keep it a secret from me until after our holiday and birthday - I'm not going on the holiday as I dont think that being confined in a holiday chalet for a week (rain is forecast) will be good for either of us.
Am I being unreasonable? I would rather he told the truth - I have been lied to in the past (ex husband had a diploma in it) and it just makes me feel sick.
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