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The wonderful season (not!)

(29 Posts)
Greenfinch Mon 21-Oct-19 12:01:31

I agree with Maw .You could even show them your post to explain how you really feel.

Eglantine21 Mon 21-Oct-19 11:49:50

You could lie and tell them you’ve invited a couple of friends.

Or even invite a couple of friends?

MawB Mon 21-Oct-19 11:45:50

Tell them - they may all heave a huge sigh of relief or possibly given that your plan sounds very attractive, you may find them sneaking down to join you!
(With luck it might snow, or perhaps you could arrange a suitable car malfunction or even flu if they really won’t take No for an answer? )

Nannanoo Mon 21-Oct-19 11:43:01

My DD is going hairless trying to ensure that I don't spend Christmas alone. She and partner are spending Christmas with his family this year, which will be lovely, as they haven't been able to do so for a couple of years. Her in-laws have kindly invited me to their family gathering, and I am most grateful, but I dread the very long journey.
My other two children are also committed to their in laws, which is fine by me.
In vain have I tried to convince DD that I am perfectly happy to spend Christmas Day solo. It's not as tho' I'm a lonely old woman, I see my family constantly, and of course they are a great delight to me.
What I am trying to do is to pluck up the courage to tell DD that I would love two or three days to myself. I'm thinking feet up, telly on, glass of sherry and a bit of chocolate, and I shall make a dainty dinner entirely to my own liking without having to worry about what DGC will want.
I love my grandchildren most dearly, but they spend most of their down time with me, and I sometimes find myself exhausted. They are aged 2 and 5, and adorable but demanding as you can imagine.
Am I being a curmudgeonly old grinch to long for a little solitude, and should I give in to DDs kindly recommendation of joining the huge, noisy and very youthful celebrations at the other end of the country?