Opinions wanted.

You really can t second guess another persons life and you can have no influence on their decisions anyway
if she wants children and he doesn’t she will have to make some decisions but they will be done when she’s ready, it’s her life we are on the sidelines watching and hoping and then when it comes to grandchildren we are on the side, side lines
Don’t waste time awishing and ahoping just accept she’s happy with a nice partner for now

Ah! I've just seen that she does want marriage and children.
In that case, after eight years she does need to know if he is in agreement with this.
I would encourage her to broach the subject with him, I don't think that this would be unreasonable after 8 years together.
If I was her, I 'd want an answer now as if marriage/children are not on his agenda, she has a lot of thinking to do.

I can understand you being concerned about your Dd and wanting the best for her, it's perfectly natural.
You say that you see quite a bit of her, can you not gently broach the subject of them having children sometime in the future or not.
As far as getting married, an awful lot don't these days.
Her partner seems very caring with his Mother so that is a good sign but if it intrudes too much on their relationship, not good.
Your daughter is probably an intelligent woman, so no doubt if her relationship is not going as she expects, then she will do something about it.
You just have to let them get on with it basically, so try not to worry so much.

Yes thank you. All these opinions are helpful to me. We will just carry on and be ready to offer help if and when needed but hoping all will work out for the best.

I didn't mean to be blunt. After 8 years, she ought to know him well enough to be able to ask him where he sees things heading.

She'll be upset if he says "nowhere" or something like that but she will know where she stands. Then she can make a decision.

Yes Tangerine, thank you. That’s exactly what I’m worried about but didn’t like to be so blunt about it. She does want children and marriage, that I do know, but doesn’t want to push him. Yes I know it’s kind supporting his mother.

Are you perhaps worried that her biological clock is ticking?

Perhaps you think he is stringing her along, doesn't really love her and, at some point, will give her up and then marry someone completely different and have the 2.4 children. Your daughter's partner's biological clock will tick for longer.

This does happen (it did to a female friend of mine) but you can't do much about it. It's her life. I suppose you could ask her how she feels and see where the discussion goes.

Perhaps she doesn't want children or marriage.

I think it's good that he emotionally supports his recently widowed mother. It sounds as if he has a kind nature.

I think he’s always been close Trisher. The only son. Sisters older with their own families.

I wonder they have been together 8 years did he give his mum as much attention before or is it a new thing? If his parents were married for a long time he may be worried that he might lose his mum as well as his dad.
You can't make your siblings care. When my mum was ill my brother did nowt.

Maybe your daughter is happy with that situation.
Unless she shows or says she isn't i wouldn't worry,it's her life ,
If they have been together 8 years something must be working, at least her partner sounds to be a caring man, who cares about his mother ,some don't

Yes thank you. I know it’s her life which is why I say nothing. It is good he is supporting his mother and is kind but he has siblings who do not seem to be as involved with the support. From a selfish point of view, I do not want my lovely daughter wasting her life with someone who seems to put her second and she will miss out on someone who will put her first. She has made the odd comment about his mother. I think she found it difficult when her son started to live with my daughter. He’d not had a serious partner before then. We continue to be cheerful and friendly when we see him and always ask after his mother. At the end of the day, I’m just worried about my lovely daughter and her happiness. Thanks for the advice so far.

His dad's been dead less than a year and he is supporting his mum he sounds lovely.
It's her life you can only stay positive and hope.

If your daughter is accepting of this and hasn't complained then all's well and I wouldn't worry unnecessarily.

It may have a future, it may not, no one will know, not even the couple probably, and that goes for most marriages, relationships etc Nothing you can do just continue being friendly, offering whatever is wanted and wait and see