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She sounds horrible. I would just tell her that you are happy with the way you are and are not interested in fasting or dieting.

I am happy at size 14/16. My sister always gets a dig in. The last time I went for a flu jab, she said, in her concerned voice, did the nurse mention your weight ? I replied 'Why should she? ' For once that nonplussed her. She had to explain why she had made the remark. So she just looked arkward and said nothing. . You could try something similar. Good luck!

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You have had some sound advice here and I cannot really come up with anything much better. Perhaps, said with a polite smile and a very calm voice ‘ do you realise how offensive that remark was? I’m feeling really hurt’. If she tries to object, you simply stick your guns. I am really hurt by your offensive remark.... Good luck.

I love all the replies here stand up to her say my husband likes big tits and a curvy body he doesn’t like thin women with flat chests

What a nasty person she sounds! Think I would be tempted to respond with "and that's your business because?........" next time she commented on your figure. And your husband should be supporting you not some shallow twig!

So much good advice and great comments here, Londonwifi. You say that your husband is 'lilly-livered, and I would certainly agree. Why give this very unpleasant woman the satisfaction of sinking to her level by responding with put down remarks? I would choose not to be in her company at any time.

Londonwifi Just a sad headshake and a sympathetic, 'Poor you' should be enough and if she queries it, smile, 'I think you know.'

Unfortunately, it is well known that obsessive exercise and dieting does affect the brain. Many anorexics genuinely see their emaciated bodies as fat. Bulimia and Anorexia are mental illnesses.

I hope you've got a lot of strength from these very positive replies.

It's such a pity that so many women still think self-starvation is healthy and the only way to be acceptable. Very sad.

Just say, 'I prefer to look like a real woman, thank you'.

I'd respond saying "have you tried engaging your brain before opening your mouth".

Or maybe "at least if I fall over my face wouldn't hit the floor!"

I would definitely not be going anywhere near her again and if my OH didn't support me he would know about it after a few days of silence and sleeping alone!

All these comments have cheered me so so much thank you.
The support in here is great.
Chloejo you did make me laugh out loud. If her aged, very nice MIL hadn’t been sitting next to me at the table I would have said what you said. ?

Tell her your happy in your own skin

Some gransnetters won't like this but ...

You could call the woman 'twiggy' or ask her if she is suffering from anorexia/bulimia.

(To those who have suffered from the disease, this is not being derogatory towards you in any way. I was anorexic in the past but I can laugh now and love my curves/myself.)

These answers are great, except the ones who suggest you don’t go out. Why should you miss out because of this ironing board on legs? Loads of replies to choose from, go out and have some fun with them! ?

Maybe I’m being charitable but maybe she is obsessed with diet and fasting and it’s the only conversation she has? Sounds like she has become very self centred and so she doesn’t think about your feelings or that you are quite capable of managing your own life. Dieters can easily lecture everyone else. If you can, don’t take it personally but you could say that there are conflicting views on fasting. It’s true and would call her out on assuming she knows it all and you don’t. Good luck and get your husband to help change the conversation when she starts going on.

Next time she offers her opinion unasked just put her in her proper place .... the ironing-board cupboard springs to mind!!

You dont have to be friends with your DHs friends spouses. He can go there without you

Next time she suggests you fast or go on a diet, just say "I am happy as I am".

Sometimes bullies back down when you stand up them.

Make similar remarks every time she says something unpleasant.

Speak in a pleasant tone and no-one can criticise you.

Good luck!

I've used this retort before......My, my it would seem that you were standing at the back of the queue when tact and diplomacy were given out or you would know that a little of each goes along way my dear!!

I think the idea of saying Pardon a few times and making someone repeat the insult is a good one! And then say after 3 insults 'I thought you said that but thought I was hearing things!' It is so much easier to think of a clever retort after the event!!

If people make jokes are say mean things I pretend I don't understand and make them explain till they get uncomfortable and to away x

I'm with notonan, if you don't like this woman, why spend time with her.
Honestly - all these very unpleasant, passive aggressive suggestions about how to deal with this situation. Being straight forward and honest is the way to go, or avoiding the situation if you feel unable to do that.

Thin women are real women too

To go to someones house planning to "pull them down a peg" is horrible advice.

The woman doesnt sound fun or tactful, but you can give the benefit of the doubt and say maybe she doesnt have insight into how blunt she is coming across. But to PLAN to go to her house with a stock of mean cutting things to say to put her down? I hope the OP wouldnt do that!