Hello ladies. I am a 40 year old Nannie to a three month old. My daughter is twenty. My daughter is not in a supportive relationship and the father appears to come and go as he pleases. This is causing great stress on my daughters mental health and she is aware she is not getting the support she needs. Despite this she states she loves him and can’t be without him. She says she wants to keep her family together.
I worry as there are arguments which little one is exposed to. In my profession I assess these situations everyday and I am fully aware of how unhealthy this is for the baby, however much I say this to my daughter she continues to stay in the relationship.
My daughter and granddaughter live with me, however my daughters relationship and mental health is taking its toll on me. I am super supportive and have taken three months off work to support her in the early stages.
I feel she takes her feelings of unhappiness out on me and I feel unappreciated to a degree for all that I do.
I also feel like my life is on hold, I am career. Focused and like to be active and fit and my daughter asks me to help her a lot which also takes me away from my own life. I know this sounds selfish but I do feel like I’m parenting my daughter and granddaughter.
She has considered moving out and we have discussed that she may struggle financially and the fact the father isn’t supportive. Believe me I have confronted him!
Am I being selfish encouraging her to leave? And I pushing her to a world of isolations and struggle? Please help
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