Worry about my 30 yr old daughter

My daughter was in a relationship for 13 years. He was the love of her life and when he cheated on her she was heartbroken. I just had to sit and wait, listen on the phone, mop up the tears , help her buy him out of the house they shared so she could stay put in the home she still loves. She is 39 soon and has not met anyone else although she has had a few dates. However, she is stronger, tougher and more together now.
You just have to enable your children to find a way through and I must admit that counselling was a godsend. Also, if your daughter has good friends then they will be supportive as she will tell them what she doesn’t tell you. We have to be mum not always best friend.
My advice is to let her know you are always there for whatever happens . It will get better and I am a great believer in fate!!

My heart goes out to you. I love that quote that I had never seen before this thread "you are only as happy as your unhappiest child ". How true it is. How we long to be able to make it better for them and to take their pain away. Tragically, we cannot. I hate it when people say to me "just be there for them". It sounds so trite and easy and just not enough. But I know that it is all we can do. Keep your eye on her. Encourage her to see her doctor and seek counselling if she seems to be sinking into depression. Try not to nag or criticise past choices. And just tell her that you love her and, (you see I am saying it myself) are always there for her. And , don't forget, we are always here for you. Xx

I think sometimes self-help groups can be just as good as counselling, which is so hit and miss, dependent on finding the right match.
MIND have some support groups.
also CoDA may be relevant.
good luck.
also try to big up her sense of self and adulthood by occasionally asking for her help, with matters of judgment, opinion etc, as it is easy to slip into unconsciously undermining her own ability to cope by rescuing, babying.

When children are heartbroken it’s so easy for us, their Parents to be heartbroken with them...but you know it’s really their life. Just as ours is. We aught to try and be more philosophical.
The difference these days seems to be, that we didn’t tell our Parents much detail. My children tell us everything and it’s not always great being so involved. I have often ended up with a sleepless night when one of them has off loaded on the me.
I have subsequently had my head bitten off when I enquired about a problem, told to me a week previously by “ Mother I don’t want to discuss it” I could retort “ why did you bloody well tell me then “ but as we love our children more than they love us...so I bite my tongue.
It can be painful being a Mum. Eh ! My motto has become ...get on with your own life and be supportive, but try not to suffer on their behalf. They can do their own suffering, as did we.