To me this reads as if it is an adult child that Sparkling is talking about and it must be truly heartbreaking. I think I would stop the coffee catch ups but I would get in to the habit of sending a letter once a month. A proper pen and paper snail mail letter, not a text or email. Buy some really nice paper and write a friendly, cheerful , upbeat letter. Be positive in what you say and never moan or whinge. If your loved one asks why you have stopped meeting, be honest but don't complain about it. Say you hope to hear back and would like to know what they are up to, but don't make a thing of it. This way you will keep all channels open but not have the despair of what sounds like dreadful meetings. Good luck.
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