We've been married for 15 years. It's my second marriage. First husband was emotionally and verbally abusive and a serial adulterer. I'll spare you the gory details but I left with my two young teenage boys. All I felt was relief. A year later I met my current husband. I thought this marriage was my happy ending and we were happy, the kids left home, so it's just the two of us, we have a home we both love, but two years ago he changed, admitted he didn't feel the same about me anymore and now sleeps in the spare room. At first my heart broke in two I went through months of such misery. Physical contact is now zero. Affection ie hugs, handholding, gentle teasing etc is zero. He is pleasant, civil, polite 99% of the time but it's breaking my heart. He is an absolute brick wall if I try to talk about it and refuses to / is unable to talk about his feelings. He refuses point blank to go to counselling. He had a very traumatic childhood and has always had relationship problems but I naively thought he had settled and was happy with me. I have a good job, a lovely family who know nothing about this situation, but I feel so lost. I don't know where to go from here. I still love him but it's mixed with anger and bewilderment.