Husband is acting nasty to me after my Dads recent Death

You need to take immediate action for yourself with your caring needs. Pressure spots could turn into something quite nasty and the last thing you need right now is that. You need to give the GP a call or social services.
Ask your daughter if she can help with finding out voluntary organization who could help in this situation with other needs you may have..
Regarding you husband, previous to this was he a caring individual?
Your husband could be suffering from depression or some other mental illness. I would ask your daughter to try and get help via his GP for this. It may be better if it was your daughter, you are not involved and are not open to repercussions.
I hope everything works out for you.
During the Coronvirus I have been heartened to speak to ordinary people who have put themselves our to help their fellow man.

Taxis will take wheelchairs, most firms will have one or two cabs fitted for wheelchair users He could be having mental health problems or it could just be that he’s not handling deaths very well
You say he didn’t attend his own fathers funeral many years ago nor his sisters so this isn’t new behaviour just got worse
He’s refusing to go to the village he loves since his sister passed away in January it sounds as if he’s in a very unhappy place and this has made him backbite about everything
I d talk to your GP Especially if your not getting the help you require perhaps they could arranged some carers for you

Julia, check if any friends or family would be willing to drive you in your car on their insurance.
Also taxi companies may have suitable vehicles.

I think you need to get help for yourself before anything else JuliaM and when this is organised talk to your Dr or SW about the problems with your husband.
Whatever the cause of your husband's problems you need to look after yourself. Take care.

Thankyou for all your helpful comments, I have had a long chat on the phone tonight with our Daughter whilst he was out in the caravan, she has agreed to mention her concerns toour GP when she visits next week as we are all based at the same practice. My husband is due for a 'Well Man' check.up anyway, after having his annual blood test taken last week, so a fine oputunity for the GP to aproach the subject.
Apparently he also snapped at our Daughter and Grandson earlier tonight when he went to collect some signitures needed by the solicitor next in Dealing with my late Dads affairs.
I am dreading the Funeral next week incase he refuses to go, only he is insured to drive our car with my Wheelchair hoist fitted, which I need to enable me to access the Grave yard, so without it I wont be able to go either.

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Ask your daughter to phone for you, perhaps?
What your husband is doing is abusive, whatever the cause, and it needs sorting out sooner rather than later.

Your DD really needs to get involved. Someone needs to get a grip with your DH, whether it’s due to the onset of dementia or just plain nastiness. Either you or she call the GP and Social Services, though neither seem to be doing anything face to face at the moment.. I had to bully my Dad Into accepting help when he refused it, though he obviously needed it and it made both his and Mum’s lives better.

Sometimes it's scary facing your own mortality, you don't know what's going on in his mind with deaths around him. Have a talk to him and be blunt about it.
The situation's enough to get anyone down.

I am wondering if hes afraid of his own demise, and fears only having 11 years left until hes the same age as my Dad was, or 8 years in his siters case.
Hes his own worst enemy when it comes to sorting out medical problems of his own. He is ready for wax removal treatment to improve his hearing, something he normally has every few months, but is now overdue due to the Covid situation. Hes also started with a Cataract in one eye, which he had an appointment to get it removed, but again it was cancelled a few days before due to the virus.
Indeed I would like him to be assesed by the Memory clinic, but again he would probably refuse to attend. Im also unsure if he will attend Dads funeral next week, like he did with his sister, and even his own father many years ago. The whole situation is a nightmare at the moment.

It does sound like the start of some kind of mental and/or emotional decline in your husband. Maybe you could discuss with your daughter and speak with his GP? You need help to deal with this behaviour.

? You should not have to put up with this abuse.
I suggest you get your daughter to help with either locking him out or finding you alternative accommodation.

You have my sympathy.

Is it possible that his behaviour has nothing to do with your fathers death, but possibly the start of mental decline. Perhaps you have been too pre-occupied to notice the first signs and are only noticing it now.