Baby’s name could break up my family

Well you obviously Can’t keep both your values And continue to be a Grandma can you?

Select one of the above.

Let’s hope its a sensible and grown up choice.

It was more important in my generation (born in the 40s) to have family names. It was customary in Scotland to use surnames as middle names and mine is my maternal GM's maiden name; my next sister had a my father's middle name, largely because it was difficult to get silver christening cups in 1943 so she was given his initials so that she could have his cup. When my next sister was born, my paternal granny was quite peeved as by that time she had four GDs and no GSs, so my parents used her forename (Margaret) as her middle name. When my two sons came along, we avoided middle names and used forenames that belonged to no-one else in the family. And I had to be very firm with my mother about that decision!
My advice to the OP is that a child's name is his or her own and nobody should be childish enough to be offended.

I think the whole thing is a bit ridiculous. What the baby (or any of your son's children) are named is up to your son and his wife. They are under no obligation to choose the names of their siblings.

If your daughter wants to have a child named after her, why doesn't she have kids of her own and do that?

I quite like Anchovy Banana . At least there won't be too many others in its class at school.
I was one of 5 in my class so we were all called by our surnames!
spelling is another annoyance. Any name which has to be spelled out every time is a bore.

I found the Scottish naming system very useful when doing family history especially before the days of statuary registration. You know you are in the right family when the same names come up each generation.
(1st son after paternal GF, 1st daughter after maternal GM and so on) you only began to name the child after the minister or friend after about 6 kids.

On my facebook feed today an American baby named Trae Cutter, beautiful DGC of my dear friend. Not sure whether boy or girl.

When our youngest son was born (36 years ago) we were going to call him Levi, after my great-grandfather. In the delivery room the (older) midwife asked what we were going to call him and when we told her she said, 'You can't call a baby that. I'm leaving the room and when I come back I hope you've thought of a better name.' !!! Do you know, we didn't call him that and I'm so glad because in those days he would have been nicknamed Jean I expect. But I still can't believe we took notice of a bossy midwife! Imagine that happening now!!!

glamma

Marmite When my second son was born he had a ginger cast to his hair and when eldest son looked at him in the crib he said he looked like a fishfinger as we had called him Ross,everytime I looked at him I saw a fishfinger looking back at me so his named was changed to Benn,I got my Ross in the end when my DD had her 4th son as she had always liked the name.
Keep your thoughts to yourself OP or you could loose contact with your DGCs altogether.

Hey MawB!
My youngest grandson was possibly to be called Gladys or Mabel if he had been a girl. No comment!
One was those names was my Mum’s name!
I’m totally offended!

Oh dear, I think Anchovy Banana is a slightly unwise choice.
I foresee them being called Fishface at school.

OP, it could be much worse, you see.
I hope we have been helpful.

If a name greaks up a family then they aren`t as close as they may have thought.
Also i have a Grandaughter who`s name is Mabelle Willow and it suits her down to the ground.

When we chose names for our children, we ensured that each one had a different Initial (with the idea that future post would never go to the wrong individual), and that their initials did not spell out something unpleasant.

Apart from that it was just our choice.

In English Jewish families it used to be the custom that the first baby born into family after someone died took that name. My maternal g.mother was Amelia and when my niece was born back in 1956, that was a very old-fashioned name. However, my brother and his wife used the name Merril as a second name for their baby - keeping everyone happy.

Cannot think of anything less important to fall out with anyone about than a name.

Normskilll
As long as it is a 'proper name' and not a 'nick-name', or silly shortening, what does it matter?

There are an awful lot of silly names out there, the initials need to be considered too. Signing cheques does not seem to matter these days. (not enough room if long name!)

Consider too, what the child will be called at school. Children can be so cruel.

I knew a Pudge. I'd never have allowed myself to live life as a Pudge.

Apologies to any Pudges

To let this break up the family would be really pathetic. I cannot understand such thinking. A new baby is a joyful event whatever name it is given.
It's absolutely up to the parents to choose their babies names
and grandparents just have to accept it and smile.

I and my son’s MIL have the same name. My granddaughter has it as a middle name and everybody’s happy!

Awful surnames - how about Smellie? I used to know one. I’d have changed it myself.

Baby's name is up to Parents. NOT extended family members. If they want to use a family name OK if they do not want to use a family name very OK.

‘It conflicts with my family values’. And what values would they be, It surely can’t be about a child’s name. Would you be happy if they included your daughters name but as a middle name. Your DiL will choose the name she wants for her baby and it’s got nothing whatsoever to do with you as you are only the grandmother with no rights and you would do well to remember that.

‘How do I respond to keep my values’ . You respect your DiL and don’t put pressure on your son and I hope that they has a lovely healthy baby. You seriously need to reconsider what your values are.

Well, what in a name? It is nobodys business but the parents.
My niece named her daughter Tiger and it suits her. We have all got used to it. Tiggs for short.

I think it is a touch dramatic to say the baby's name could break up your family! I think that you need to grow up!!

The choice of names is down to the parents. Even if you don't like it, just say it is lovely. It will grow on you.

My grandchildren's middle names are after my dil family. It has never caused an issue with me.

Continuing on the theme of names within the family, I wonder whether Michael Jackson's two sisters, Janet in particularly, pondered "why I'm a called plain old Janet and she gets LaToya as a moniker"

Family names a minefield at the best of times!

'Pearl Button'! Marmight

I'm amazed when names are passed down from father to son and mother to daughter for the next generation, for example take George snr and Barbara Bush, son and daughter George (W) and Barbara. How many people do you need in the a nuclear family with the same name? At least they displayed amazing imagination when they pulled "Jed" out of the hat for child number 3, or possibly not, that could have been a mere acronym!

My Mum had a school friend named Pearl Button . You don’t hear of many Pearls these days although I know a few Rubys and Emeralds .....

My SiL married a Grocock, I don't think I could have done that, but it doesn't seem to bother her, or her children and their wives!

I agree with all of the comments above! Totally up to the parents to choose their baby’s names. My Mum did visibly shudder when seeing a ‘possible’ name on our list for DD1. She’d had a step grandmother with that name who was apparently universally disliked. Luckily I went off it. We loved the name Flora but at a family party everyone was shocked and said you can’t name a child after a margarine ?. It's best to keep thoughts and opinions to yourself. I love all my GCs names and happily they include quite a few ‘family’ names which is a bonus