Moving away from family

I hope you are ok today Morley. I’m thinking that yesterday may have been very difficult.

I don’t buy the Mr Reasonable image either.

Sorry, but it’s totally out of order to snoop at what your wife has been looking at online and then join GransNet in order to post your point of view and in the process write disparaging things about your wife. This seems like controlling behaviour to me Neutrino and you also come over as extremely selfish.

Not only does it seem that you trying to control your wife, you are also trying to control the responses to your post. I don’t find you reasonable at all. If you were my husband, I’d run a mile.

However you’re not, so if you still love one another please get some professional help.

One day per week seeing your family Morley is not excessive at all, but I do totally understand the feeling of being excluded. But as a step parent myself, I just feel you have to accept your secondary role Neutrino. The children come first. If you have lots of friends Neutrino, surely you can spare Morley for one day per week while you pursue your own interests? Or make an effort and join in, but fun always centres around what young Grandchildren want to do, not what the adults prefer.

Well said Calistemon, FarNorth and Kryptonite.

I sincerely hope you can both sort this out.

Morley ?

And we hear no more from our OP........dear reader.

Yet again.

Oopsadaisy yes.

Strange word, isn't it, controlling
If you look at the syllables separately.

If you have to make a choice, your family comes first. As your husband has already bought another house I think perhaps he should go and live in it and you should visit once a month or so for a week. This would give him time to set up a life for himself and when you join him time to do joint activities with you and no need to mention your family as you have 3 weeks a month at your present house to visit them. After a time you will hopefully find your way through this relationship. In the long run I do not think moving away from supportive and friendly family members is a good thing to do.

Hope you find a solution. All the best.

Oopsadaisy and Callistemon.

Note the very significant difference in literary style between Morley58 and Neutrino.

Unusual username, Neutrino

geekesse

Note the very significant difference in literary style between Morley58 and Neutrino.

Yes. They strike me as two people who wouldn't even share the same bus route!

If any of you have had dealings with someone with NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder they would recognise the signs instantly. Oh so reasonable, controlling, flying monkeys, creepy stalking of her social media, trying to keep her from her family. I wonder who had the most money before he had his inheritance? There are laws against this now and the police take it very seriously. Please look it up. It struck me even before he joined in. Good luck Morley.

Farnorth I agree with you. This man is working very hard at appearing reasonable but what husband attacks his wife this way on social media? And buys a house behind her back? Lots of red flags about neutrino. Even the choice of name is deliberate. "I am neutral" when, obviously he is anything but. I get such a wrong feeling about all of this. OP hasn't returned, Mr. Perfect is appealing to us all. Nope.

Merlotgran: Yes. They strike me as two people who wouldn't even share the same bus route!

Or two sides of the same coin?

I hope you are ok Morley, since you have left

Elvis Morley has left the building.

Very creepy of him to track down his wife online, when he could talk to her in person. Talk about wanting to control the narrative. Like the beginning of a murder novel.

Perhaps it is

I think many new threads which have been started lately sound like the beginnings of novels.

Callistemon

Oopsadaisy yes.

Strange word, isn't it, controlling
If you look at the syllables separately.

Yes, I thought this as soon as 'Mr Morley' appeared, Callistemon.

According to t'Internet, neutrinos may not exist, which is also interesting.

Curiouser and curiouser Doodledog; an unusual name for him to have chosen then, wasn't it.

Libman I too found it disturbing. Absolutely classic example of gaslighting. But oh so plausible...........

Yes.

* Unusual username, Neutrino*

It’s seems very contrived. Rather creepy.

This does read like an episode or two of the Archers.
EmilyH said family come first. Surely your DH or DW are your family?
I don't get the obsession with DC and DGC. Once they are grown up and launched they have their own lives to live. You can still love them and care about them without living in their pockets.
If mý DC moved 200 miles away I wouldn't follow them and leave my friends and community to be near them.
I hope (if this story is genuine) that it has a happy outcome.

Well done neutrino for coming on here and balancing things up there is always two sides to every story and surely a balanced view is what’s needed
You sound to me as if you are trying hard and the fact you say you love your wife and you are happy to make compromises
I think you have done the right thing in getting the second home and I think the compromise is a good one
It’s not a marriage I would want I prefer to be settled one place or another but it does work for some people I think a lot depends on what you do together when Morley’s not with her family !

Nasty post libman are you a son of Morley ?

Crazygranny why would you say that ? He has offered to live half and half surely that’s a complete compromise

I had to google Rob Titchener I d never heard of him before

I hope you sort something out you sound a reasonable man nuetrino and Morley sounds a nice lady If you don’t stay together I hope you each have a good life but hopefully you ll find a middle ground

My thoughts are with Morley. Been trying to put myself in her position. I would be feeling completely humiliated. She was already feeling 'devastated', so I can only imagine how she's feeling now.

Chewbacca

Curiouser and curiouser Doodledog; an unusual name for him to have chosen then, wasn't it.

It was. It’s an unusual situation all round. Poor Morley must feel like she’s talking to herself, mustn’t she?

He wasn't the one who offered to live half and half it was his wife.

That’s strange I wrote my last post very early this morning and we were still on page 1 so many answers have come up between the nuetrino mans post and mine it feels out of context now
So the original poster has gone and her husband has appeared gets stranger and stranger