Getting Married

Maybe we might get round to it one day. 42 years together.
Or maybe not ?

Splendid news!
Happy a long and happy time together.

Congratulations , so pleased it all went well and that you have happy memories of your day ??

Congratulations to you both, some lovely news in these uncertain times. May you have a very happy life together ??? xx

Brilliant! Congratulations, wishing you a long and happy marriage.? ?

Congratulations and well done???

Congratulations from me too!

My daughter was just saying today, she was glad they took the plunge a month ago, in our garden. Things are changing so quickly.
?Be happy!!

Congratulations to you both

I hope you have a long and happy life together janipan.

Congratulations to you both. ??

Congratulations janipan I'm glad you had such a happy day in the end. ❤?

Congratulations janipans

Well we did it! The 2 eldest children were witnesses and the others were invited to a champagne afternoon tea for 6 at a posh venue. The ceremony took half an hour and my other daughter, my best friend and hubby's DIL waited outside the Registry Office to watch us walk out as Husband and Wife. We had a lovely day, even the sun shone for us. My "husband's" daughter couldn't make it, (so DIL joined us for the afternoon tea with my other daughter). neither did she make a garden visit appearance later as my best friend did so we're a bit upset that she couldn't make a bit of effort considering all the support her dad has given her over the years, but we are happy to have tied the knot at last after many years talking about it.
(DH went onto dialysis just at the beginning of lockdown and has been struggling healthwise and it didn't help that he was worrying himself silly that I wouldn't get his pension if we weren't actually married, so as this was something we always intended to do one day, and with Covid lurking in the background we decided to just do it whilst we can ... gathering our rosebuds as they say!).

Well done - have a happy day!

janipans, I am so glad you managed to resolve the situation AND managed to keep everyone happy.

For those who are talking about numbers permitted at weddings, I don't think Boris has changed it.

A friend's son got married in a registry office at the end of July and the registry office only permitted the bride, groom and two guests/witnesses.

The same week, a friend's daughter got married at our church. This meant (and I think it is probably the same for a service at a licensed venue other than a registry office) there could be a total of 30 people, including bride, groom, minister/photographer etc. However, the change that Boris announced this week is that those 30 guests are now able to attend a reception, with food and drink served, so long as Covid measures are observed. Prior to this, people could attend the wedding service but were not permitted to have a reception.

Ah janipans that's brilliant news, I'm really very pleased that it all worked out in the end. And now you just have the Big Day to look forward to, knowing that everyone's on board and happy! Well done and many best wishes for your wedding day!

Just to let you all know, had face to face talk - all resolved and differences settled and our 2 eldest are being witnesses.

Accepted as being a misunderstanding. We are under a lot of stress at the moment and little things and comments can easily get blown up out of proportion

I know 30 ok at the moment for weddings .... but France was also ok for not quarantining and look what happened there! ... so just going along with simple ceremony to "do the deed" and celebration later seems most sensible in these uncertain times. The celebration when it comes will be as special as we can make it - we will all deserve to have something to look forward to and enjoy together by time Covid is properly under control and we will be in the happy position of being able to facilitate a special family gathering.

Go ahead as you planned. It is your day. OH should invite a friend.

In the normal course of events, I could understand their disappointment but I see why you feel it might be necessary to marry now rather than wait. I think it is quite unkind and unreasonable of them, especially as you have said there will be a big family celebration at a later date.

I feel very sorry for people having to change their plans every few weeks, B9exchange, It must be so stressful.

Rules changed again from tomorrow, 30 guests back on, what was the point of changing it for two weeks?!

Son's friends were due to get married tomorrow. They hung on till the last minute, then cancelled. But it could have gone ahead!

That's good to hear janipans.
Do whatever will make both of you happy.

Under normal circumstances we would still have had a registry office wedding but with all the family etc and a celebration of some sort afterwards (probably a posh meal). However, The reality is that my OH has medical issues which necessitated both of us shielding completely and has been very ill and very "down".
Our families were aware that we intended to get married at some stage but Covid led us to examine our own mortality and so we decided that getting married would tick that off our bucket list and give us something to look forward to. It has also given us a much needed "lift" .... and we are just ignoring anyone who can't just be happy for us.
Thank you everyone for your comments - sometimes you just need to tell someone (even if it's a group of strangers) what's bothering you to make yourself feel better - "a problem shared ...!"

Do it I bent over backwards for family when we got married I now regret not just doing what WE wanted x

From Saturday Boris is allowing 30 guests at weddings. Move quickly though or he might change his mind again.