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Do people really enjoy being on their own? Or is that a defence?

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grantothree Mon 24-Aug-20 15:05:14

I do mean this from a position of wanting to understand rather than a belittling way. I've never had any issues talking to new people - I'm interested in new people (hopefully not too nosey!) and enjoy having a chat. I respect that's not for everyone and I do try and be aware of signals if someone wants me to move on. But if I'm honest I struggle to understand that some people do truly prefer being on their own. Of course, I do enjoy a walk on my own sometimes and reading a book quietly some afternoons but on the whole I really get such a buzz and companionship out of talking to others. Do some people really enjoy being on their own?

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KarenDerna Tue 01-Sept-20 10:42:34

I love being on my own, I enjoy my own company I love seeing my friends, but having been in an unhappy marriage with 4 children I felt very alone at times.
I am now married again and much as I love him I relish time on my own.
My oldest loves to be with other people, my second loves to be on his own, but has plenty if really good friends. My third has a few close friends but also loves her own company, the fourth has special needs and autism and as long as he knows what's for dinner and there is somebody around near him is happy, he doesn't understand friendship at all, he just needs somebody to be a parent type figure hot look after him. We're all different in our wants and needs.
Being surrounded by people constantly is stressful for some, me included, and a necessity for others.
I find as I get older I really don't enjoy being in a busy crowded space, if indoors I like to be near a door. Outside I prefer to be on the edge of a crowd.

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