Pandemic could damage friendships

BrandyGran

Yes it sounds so simple-just pick up the phone but I don't understand why she can't just text me . I have taken the inititive so many times I dont feel like doing it again.Maybe I am being unfriended!

Being harsh, but yes, perhaps your friend was looking for an excuse to cool off the friendship, and lockdown has been the trigger. She could easily text you if she wanted to, and if you have taken the initiative so many times.....

BrandyGran if you are fond of this friend and enjoy her company just phone her and arrange to meet up. You might even ask her why she never takes the initiative, and tell her you feel hurt that she doesn't. Life is too short to allow pride to get in the way.

I too feel some friendships won't survive. I've tried with some but response is lukewarm. We went to art group together and had lunch and chat after. I really enjoyed meeting up.
Perhaps we dont really have anything in common apart from art. I don't think art group will be the same after. ?

I've known my dearest friend for more than 30 years and during that time for several years after she'd moved away, we had no contact due to family problems she was having.

I had no idea what was going on so as far I was concerned she'd just dropped me. One day she 'phoned and I told her how hurt and angry I was at the way she'd treated me. She asked if she could come and see me and I agreed.

I can still remember what it was like when she walked into our home and we threw our arms around one another. It was wonderful and those years of no contact and all the hurt and anger just disappeared.

We are just as close as we ever were; she's the sister I never had.

Another side to this .
My friend will not be seeing much at all of one of her friends because she objects so much to this person making up her own rules as to lockdown, she says she will make up her own mind as to who she sees and what she does.
She has been ferrying people around all the time.
I don't think the friendship will survive, certainly not as close as it has been.

Suedonim, we had an outbreak of nits when I was teaching and my friend and colleague had to check my hair, as I was sure I had them! ? She was indeed a true friend.

We haven't seen each other since March, as I was shielding, but we still message each other frequently.
However, another friend has cut me off, as I apparently didn't reply to a text, which I hadn't seen.

In that case, she doesn’t really sound like a friend, Brandygran so why bother?

Grumppa I draw the line at picking the nits out of my friends’ hair!

I don't think we're as like chimpanzees as the Professor thinks. A friend who had not been in touch with me for years contacted me during lockdown, and we just carried on where we had left off

Yes it sounds so simple-just pick up the phone but I don't understand why she can't just text me . I have taken the inititive so many times I dont feel like doing it again.Maybe I am being unfriended!

I’ve read an article on that topic and I don’t agree with it. I have friends going back decades who I rarely see due to geographical constraints but we just pick up where we left off when we do meet.

Other people who I meet now and then, I don’t consider so much as friends as acquaintances.

Get in touch. If you value the friendship you must make contact, otherwise your friend will think you’re not interested, as presumably you are thinking about her. Don’t let pride influence the outcome.

I think friendships will pick up again if the pandemic ever ends ! I don’t understand why you are too proud? If you Like the person then contact them, if not, don’t bother !

Why not suggest meeting up now? Outside, safely? 10 years is a long time to give up on, without having a try.

Swallow your pride and pick up the phone