Cutting the apron strings

Aquafish Does anyone else feel an unhealthy anxiety about cutting the apron strings once & for all to let your middle-aged offspring lead their own lives without your influence?
Anxiety about adult DC is normal, unless it’s debilitating and overtaking one’s own life.

But trying to influence their lives isn’t healthy, in my view.
I try to support my DC as much as I can, but their decisions are theirs, not mine.
Yes it is hard when DC and DGC live abroad. FaceTime etc are a poor substitute for proper regular contact, though better than nothing.
One thing I do recommend, if your GDC are old enough, are proper, old-fashioned letters. These seem to forge a closer relationship than text messages and the children love them. And there’s nothing like getting a reply!
I hope things work out for you.

You will stil be their mother no matter how far away they are.
They love you and more than likely feel the same .
Thats life.

My DD lives in Australia, I often wish I could help her more and just be there for mum and daughter chats, but I can’t.

It’s life.

It’s hard and I understand as one of my two lives abroad so visits are few and far between given their work commitment etc.
Difficult times at present but once life returns to a semblance of normal your activities will pick up and yes you can visit, but when our children move to another country it isn’t easy but you will ( have) to get used to it.
I spent the first 8 years hoping she would come back. She hasn’t, it’s their life and we have to let them go. Keep busy, it helps.

This may sound harsh, but I'm afraid, that they are adults now and as much as it hurts, you have to let them go.
It's natural to worry, but you won't always be here, so let them develop their own lives, independent of you.
There is nothing to stop you visiting them.