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lippyqueen Thu 01-Oct-20 14:41:47

On Saturday we arranged a meal here in our house with 4 local friends. My husband went to pick them up, only 3 or 4 miles away so that they could have a drink and taxi home. They all wore masks in the car.
Three quarters of the way through the evening the wife of one couple, announced that they had both had a Covid test that day because she was experiencing some symptoms. We were all extremely shocked and surprised to say the least.
They went home and then on Tuesday evening she phoned to say that the test was positive. We are so disappointed and also furious that we have been put in this position. We and the other people are all in isolation just hoping we do not get any symptoms.
These people also had a BBQ on the Sunday to which 2 more couples came. They have put 8 people at risk and their extended families. We have 9 days to go in quarantine. These people were really good (so we thought) friends and we feel very let down by them. We have no idea of how things will go forward. So far we have not been contacted by them and we are just thinking about how to handle it.

Gingergirl Fri 02-Oct-20 10:35:56

Well the deed has been done so to speak now. And how very selfish of them to socialise. If it was me, I would get it off my chest and send a carefully worded text, expressing how I feel..not being rude, but getting the message across. Then, give them a wide berth until/unless you start to feel differently over time. Who needs enemies....

grandadoscar Fri 02-Oct-20 10:38:00

Crazy. Despite all the stuff about rules. Everyone needs to look out for each other. If you thought there was a chance you had some other contagious illness would you go to dinner at someone’s house? Be it norovirus, flu or a common cold.

SooozedaFlooze Fri 02-Oct-20 10:41:10

I would be fuming!!!
Some people just don't get the whole Covid thing and this is why we're having round 2

SunRising Fri 02-Oct-20 10:49:14

Appalling behaviour in fact unbelievable. How you could go to someone else`s home whilst awaiting a test result is beyond me. They are not your friends.

pennykins Fri 02-Oct-20 10:50:28

That is absolutely appalling and they should be reported for coming to your house in the first place but perhaps you should not have had a dinner party with 2 other couples in the current climate with the virus on the up again and now we an see how it is happening and they might be responsible for someone's death by mixing with others when there was the possibility of them having the virus in the first place.

Maremia Fri 02-Oct-20 10:52:35

Absolutely shocked at what is happening to some of you on this thread. After reading through the comments and concerns about the Scottish MP on another thread today, I assumed folk were better informed about infection control. If someone as well protected as Donald Trump can get Covid, then anyone can. Good luck those who have families affected/infected. Just stay safe, will you!?!

LauraNorder Fri 02-Oct-20 10:52:50

I do hope you remain healthy but sorry to say I agree with Jean Ainsworth.
It is a bit irresponsible, during a serious pandemic, to hold a dinner party. Very irresponsible to have four others in your car and I sincerely hope that they didn’t take a taxi home putting the driver and following passengers at risk.

trustgone4sure Fri 02-Oct-20 10:54:20

I agree with Grannynannywanny 100%.
And tbh they need reporting to the police.

henetha Fri 02-Oct-20 10:57:25

No wonder Covid is spreading with people behaving like that.
I think their behaviour is almost unforgiveable.

harrigran Fri 02-Oct-20 10:59:43

I was almost apoplectic with rage when I read about the dinner party guest. How dare they potentially infect others.
The dinner party host must take some blame too, who holds dinner parties during a pandemic ?
While I am writing this I am watching my neighbour load up the car, she is driving from NE England, in lockdown, to the northern tip of Skye and then taking the ferry to Harris. She is no spring chicken as she is 75 and is driving alone, what if she breaks down ?

NanaPlenty Fri 02-Oct-20 10:59:54

I would report them - I find it unbelievable and they call themselves friends , possibly passing on something that could be life threatening. Sorry you have had this experience, hope you stay well. Cross them off your list of friends.

eilys Fri 02-Oct-20 11:01:48

Should not have picked them up in your car,

lemsip Fri 02-Oct-20 11:08:27

I would not invite 'friends' into my house for a meal under current situation anyway!

BusterTank Fri 02-Oct-20 11:15:22

I'm afraid there is so many of them out there , irresponsible and selfish . There's no wonder there's a second wave . I would tell her exactly what you think because its obvious she had no consideration for you .

Milliemabel Fri 02-Oct-20 11:16:19

If that happened to me I'd have nothing more to do with them as they would clearly not be the people I thought they were sad

marriane Fri 02-Oct-20 11:19:49

M daughter announced she is getting married to her long term partner who is 64, she is 45. while I can accept age difference, but he treats me like an old woman, I am 4 years older than him, and keep myself fit and always dress well, make up all the time. anyway I have put up with it for the sake of my daughter for years. now they are getting married in a venue in the country, I said it was stupid and dangerous at the moment. I was to be there with my other daughter, who now can't go as in quarantine. I said I wasn't happy about going, as I don't no the place or the people there. Have been ignored told I am being stupid and unforgivable not going to my own daughters wedding. his parents in their 80s said they wouldn't miss it for the world , I am a horrible person for not going in his eyes. Please can I have some other peoples thoughts on this. thank you much appreciated.

Moggycuddler Fri 02-Oct-20 11:27:09

I wouldn't have invited anyone to my house at the moment, I must say. But she was extremely thoughtless. I would give her a real piece of my mind and be done with her. People doing stupid things like this are causing the actual deaths of others. It's not a small thing.

NannyDaft Fri 02-Oct-20 11:29:27

Absolutely agree these people are no friends of anybody ! Email them and put your feelings in words ! What could the selfish people be thinking off ! I hope very much you stay well and that you have any more “Friends” like these !

NannyDaft Fri 02-Oct-20 11:30:50

Don’t have !

Seefah Fri 02-Oct-20 11:31:19

Unbelievable and there is me thinking it was the youth to blame for the escalating cases. I would be furious if anyone exposed me to Covid and definitely not consider them a friend. Sadly you took risks and hopefully won’t pay the price. I know four people who died of it so I’m bit paranoid. But after reading of the Scots MP with Covid taking the train twice (London Edinburgh ) I’m glad I am paranoid.

BStP Fri 02-Oct-20 11:32:19

I think it is outrageous for the couple not to have told you they had symptoms that could be covid. The rules are clear that in our area you can meet with 6 people from different households and share a car as long as you wear a mask but I guess you always take a risk as you do not know if anyone could be asymptomatic. On the other hand you are mixing with more than 6 people in schools and work and supermarkets!
I would be so upset if one of my friends did that to me.
I am even more appalled at the attitude of the cancer patient putting others with weak immune systems at risk. They both need to be reported,

lemsip Fri 02-Oct-20 11:34:50

Marriane. Stand firm and don't go to the wedding!... Your health is yours, look after it!

Paperbackwriter Fri 02-Oct-20 11:35:04

Are we even allowed to meet up with people from more than one other household? I thought it was a rule that you couldn't, entirely because of this kind of potential outcome.

Sparklefizz Fri 02-Oct-20 11:42:29

marriane

M daughter announced she is getting married to her long term partner who is 64, she is 45. while I can accept age difference, but he treats me like an old woman, I am 4 years older than him, and keep myself fit and always dress well, make up all the time. anyway I have put up with it for the sake of my daughter for years. now they are getting married in a venue in the country, I said it was stupid and dangerous at the moment. I was to be there with my other daughter, who now can't go as in quarantine. I said I wasn't happy about going, as I don't no the place or the people there. Have been ignored told I am being stupid and unforgivable not going to my own daughters wedding. his parents in their 80s said they wouldn't miss it for the world , I am a horrible person for not going in his eyes. Please can I have some other peoples thoughts on this. thank you much appreciated.

marriane

Yes, stand firm. Very difficult, I know. If you think it will get too awkward and that the daughter who is getting married is unpleasant towards you for saying No, I don't think it would hurt to tell a fib and pretend you are in quarantine in order to protect your health. It would keep the peace.

I think your daughter is mad to arrange a wedding to a longterm partner during a pandemic.

Sennelier1 Fri 02-Oct-20 11:54:18

I would not react at all, not even to vent my anger. To me, they would be out of my life. If in a pandemic you can’t trust someone with your life, your health, then you should distance yourself.