Spending time together

We did this for a while due to illness not TV and were happy doing it but both decided we had started to live different lives and could drift apart. We now have at least three days together watching programs we both love and the rest apart watching our own programs although we still
pop in a couple of times together for a chat.

Ditto! My husband likes American series & all sorts of stuff I call rubbish.
He goes into his study after dinner & I use the sitting room.
He does absolutely LOVE Corrie though so we do watch that together.
We do talk to each other as the study is next to the sitting room!
Usually him asking for a cup of coffee or me asking him to open a bottle of wine!

This is no different from having different hobbies that are carried on in different rooms. It seems to work, so why change it?

Are there are at least a few programmes that you both like? You could maybe set aside one or two evenings to watch them together? But if not, as long as you get on well together and spend time/do other things together during the day, it's fine to each watch your own stuff in the evenings. Much better than bickering over the TV or being "forced" to watch things you dislike. Don't worry about it. It certainly doesn't mean you aren't a good loving couple because you spend a few hours doing your own thing in the evenings. Quite often my husband (of 41 years) will sit in one room reading or playing music while I'm on my playstation in the other room. We are both happy doing what we want!

I could have written your post myself Sophiasnana. The difference is with me and my husband, we spend the week nights in different rooms then on Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights we both sit together and decide together on what film we watch. He has his gin and tonic and I have my Vodka with lime and Soda. It works really well for both of us and we look forward to every weekend. I hope that you and your husband can sort some time out to be together.

OH watches far more tv than I do. We just have the one set so if he is watching something I hate, he simply puts headphones on!

Nope couldn't tell you the last time we watched TV together. He watches something on his tablet with his headphones and I read via my ereader . Suits us . He will sometimes stop his movies to tell me about an actor.
Occasionally movies
I am very partial to my husband.
I think you and your husband are comfortable

We tend to spend the days in separate rooms but watch tv together in the evenings. We compromise on what we watch.

DH is not really interested in much more than the football, well almost any kind of sport really. I on the other hand don't like any sport other than tennis which is not on tv very often.
We do have a little tv in the bedroom which is connected up to the BT tv set-up where I think he should watch matches/games other than those with his actual team in and leave me in peace to watch Prime/Netflix stuff.
Needless to say, that never happens.
It'll be me in there now that football is back in full swing and winter approaches.
We do watch some things together though, Mastermind and University Challenge come to mind!

Sophiasnana I'm 61, my husband is 62, we've been married 40 years. He watches his tv programmes whilst I'm here (lounge/diner) on the computer, looking at different things. On the odd occasion, I want to watch something, he either sits and read or does his crosswords. We talk and we occasionally go out - separately and together (not so much now, with all this Covid business), but we're ok.

We have in-laws who do this and I have always thought it rather weird.
When OH wants to watch something awful (e.g.cycling or car racing) I go onto my iPad and if he hates something I want to watch he reads (sometimes with his eyes closed).

Have to confess I am not really that bothered about watching TV, it seems to be on sport most of the time with the remote at DH's side. I like medical programmes so if there is no sport on will watch one of those perhaps, but really not going to make a song and dance about it. I also may be in the office on my laptop.

We rarely spend time together in the evening. My OH goes up to his bedroom sometime between 7 and 8pm to watch whatever he wants (especially football) and I stay downstairs as I don't have a tv in my bedroom. He will watch some things on his laptop in the afternoons, but the main tv doesn't usually go on until about 7pm. Only weekends we might watch something sport during the day.
He also goes out one or two evenings most weeks in normal circumstances. I used to as well but just about all the group I met up with have moved away (lucky devils) or simply don't go out anymore.
We have never done much together as far a socialising goes and have always had a different set of friends in the main. He was born and bred here so knows far more people than I do.

Been together for over 40 years so it works fine. Haven't wanted to cuddle up on the sofa for a very long time lol.

We sit in different rooms for a couple if hours most nights, him watching one thing, me another. Then we get together about 9 ish and find something we both want to watch. I've never thought if it as a problem. We've been married 51 years.

We tend to have the same taste including football, when there is a difference, we tend to watch together anyway might learn something new!

I don’t see a problem in watching different tv programmes in different rooms.
Think about those poor women forced to endure the dreaded football!

We watch most things together or one will read while the other watches something, but occasionally one will go in the other living room to watch something different.

Sophiasnana, if you really want time together get yourselves along to a dance school. You can't be more together than embraced in each other's arms as you dance round to, slow, slow, quick, quick, slow.

30 years or more of marriage makes you both comfortable in knowing that you don't have to do everything together. You wouldn't read a book together and for my wife and I, and many others too, we have separate bedrooms. So don't go getting anxious because others watch TV together.

As for the future, it's only natural to have some concern. When you made the vow until death you do part, death was never on the horizon. I worry two fold over that. Being bereaved over the loss of my darling wife, or, going first and leaving her alone to cope. My wish would be to emulate Prime Minister James Callaghan who died just 11 days after Audry, his beloved wife of 67 years.

We do have another tv in the spare bedroom but neither of us watches it in these days of catch-up tv!

If there’s ever a clash we take it in turns to watch something live and t’other person catches up later that evening/week. Some things we both want to watch and others, not so much, so will read or listen to music with headphones.

We tend to spend our mornings and/or afternoons apart doing different things then like to join up again for the evenings and have always had a settee each!

We also have different viewing tastes but spend all day together most days, so don’t feel it’s a problem. I watch some of my things on the iPad he watches football on there too. I go up to bed at 9pm to read and dh stays down to watch whatever he wants.
You could still cuddle up and have a cosy time listening to music or talking.

We watch the 6 o clock news and the regional news together, then I go to the spare bedroom to watch on a smallish tv, and he stays in the sitting room.
Have done this for years, don’t see a problem.
As for ‘cuddling up on the sofa together’, more often than not it sounds like ‘battle of the remote’ from same room viewing, so I prefer our more civilised way.

I spend a lot of time in my little cupboard office which is off the living room and have a TV in there so tend to watch some things on that or on YouTube while he has the main TV on. We like different things - he watches a lot of history programs which I find boring. Most nights we do end up sitting in the same room around 8 or 9pm before bed at 10. We've been married nearly 50 years so don't feel the need to be sellotaped together any more

Sometimes we watch the same thing and sometimes he goes to another room that has a tv. It’s the dog that snuggles with me...and that suits me fine!

I've always had my own TV/reading room (in both marriages) and never felt the need to be glued to the side of a partner. I enjoy spending time alone!

Sophiasnana, I think you must be a very nice couple who will continue to be happy.

We’ve only got the one TV, so it’s just as well we tend to like the same things on the whole! Usually we can wangle it to be watching together between around 8 and 10ish if we’re in, often something we’ve recorded. Though sometimes just one of us is viewing, but the other’s usually in the same room doing something else (reading, crosswords, etc).

Unlike some earlier posters we tend to be together more in the late evenings than we are during the day.