I’ll try not to write a whole book, but I don’t want to leave any details out
I’m in my mid-fifties, my partner of 4 years is early 60s.
We met on-line, we don’t live together. He was widowed and left with 5 children 20 years ago. He’s had more tragedies in his life - his 21 year old daughter died, then a few years later his 18 year old son was left badly brain damaged in a car crash.
Through all this he had a platonic woman friend who supported him. They are still very close, phone every day, text repeatedly all day. I have grudgingly accepted this.
When we became exclusive we agreed to delete all online dating accounts, which I did. I later found out he hadn’t.
He then deleted them in front of me and I thought everything was going well.
However, last week I noticed a notification for a sex site pop up on his phone screen. I snooped in his phone.
He has made accounts on many hook-up sites. He has saved hundreds of explicit photos to his phone. He has messaged to arrange meetups.
But worse, there are 100s of photos of his “friend” - fully clothed, normal photos. There are none of me.
I confronted him. He said it’s research into scam sites. He said he’s sorry.
I am devastated - I had 2 abusive marriages previously. I thought he was different.
How Can I possibly carry on with this now?
