Saranine
@MamaCaz It would just be nice to know that my Son had thought of me by sending me photos of the Grandchildren that’s all. It’s like he’s checked out of our relationship by letting DIL do it all.
I can understand that. It's nice to feel that our children care and are interested. It must hurt a bit to feel he has checked out.
I don't know why but my husband is like this as well with his family. I don't think it's that he doesn't care. He just doesn't, and has never, 'done it' as far as social and contacting/connecting things. I'm sure it's not personal.
Given this is the situation though, your DIL is your key to being connected to the family. Why not build a relationship with her? I'd have loved it if my MIL had wanted to spend time with me and become a friend to me. Instead she made it very clear where my place was, alienated me, resulting in her son's efforts to connect being all she could rely on. He still doesn't 'do it' socially and my MIL has lost out as a result.