Erectile dysfunction

Sex is important in a relationship.
A 80 y o widow told me "If the sex is good, the marriage is good"
ED is a problem that besets many men as they age, but not helped by lifestyle or diabetes.
It does sap their confidence, so he needs encouragement, in any form that you see fit, whether talk or demonstrations

Viagra, or Cialis may not work in your case.
As a diabetic he should be eligible for either an electric vacuum pump, (With a ring to go on after the pump has done its work) or just an elastic ring, to be prescribed.
The results can be almost instant!

The least, without a prescription, is that you would save the VAT. Hopefully the GP will prescribe as a treatment.
If you can persuade him to talk to his GP, and try out the aids, it should restore some of his self esteem, and hopefully bring you both pleasure, and improved health.
Genesis Medical are one supplier of such aids.
Hope that this helps

Essppee is spot on,i can`t add to that great advice.

I don’t think the relationship will survive unless he changes. Perhaps you need to let him know this. It might just be what is needed to get him to change his ways.
A sexless relationship doesn’t have to be a problem but a loveless relationship is doomed. IMHO.

You could seek help and advice from Relate, either as a Couple, or for yourself as a partner. This can be via literature, Books, leaflets, contact numbers for advice lines, or by seeing one of their trained Counsellors face to face. Your Husband may also find it useful to be checked over by a urologist, and any physical causes treated or ruled out. As a Diabetic man, he would also be entitled to free treatment on prescription, of which there are many types, not just Viagra. The chances are that he's feeling very angry with himself that his body is letting him down in this way, and is feeling unworthy of your affections, hence he has given up somewhat as he sees himself as a bit of a burden, and doesn't want to pester you knowing that he has little chance of giving you full lovemaking like he used to do. Relate can help with these feelings too, as part of Couple counselling, and setting small tasks for you both to try as 'Homework' between sessions, which can be very helpful.

Good morning Goodynanny
Without any physical loving at all, for example hugs, kisses, walking hand in hand, signs of appreciation and so on, what have you become to him? A housekeeper?