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He feels nothing for me

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Grandmabatty Thu 18-Feb-21 12:22:09

I apologise for my one word answer. Here's the rest. He is telling you who he is and will not or does not want to change. You are making excuses and want to work on a relationship that no longer exists. It isn't your job to fix someone who may be depressed. Speak to a lawyer and sort out financial information particularly if you own your home. Stop doing anything for him. No cooking, cleaning, washing etc. Make it clear you are now living separately. I repeat. You cannot fix what he doesn't want to fix. I know as I have been where you are.

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timetogo2016 Thu 18-Feb-21 12:13:47

You deserve to be happy Joyfulnanna.
Walk away and be happy i did after 30 odd years and have NEVER look back.

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TwiceAsNice Thu 18-Feb-21 12:12:24

Leave you only have one life. I left after 42 years and have never been happier even in lockdown

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Grandmabatty Thu 18-Feb-21 12:10:33

Leave.

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Joyfulnanna Thu 18-Feb-21 11:44:36

My man admitted that he has no feelings of love for me and feels awkward being intimate, even giving me a hug. I don't want to live for the rest of my life with someone who won't even hold me. He is probably depressed but won't seek help. Lots going on but nothing that can't be resolved with a bit of effort. Been together over 25 years and obviously built a life together, but what is life without love? Have to decide whether I can stomach this in the future, I'm keeping my head down during LD and wracking my brain whether I should move on soon. I am attractive and outgoing and would be able to form another relationship but I can't help feeling like a failure and wanting to find a solution. It's awful having these conflicting feelings.. Any advice welcomed x

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