I apologise for my one word answer. Here's the rest. He is telling you who he is and will not or does not want to change. You are making excuses and want to work on a relationship that no longer exists. It isn't your job to fix someone who may be depressed. Speak to a lawyer and sort out financial information particularly if you own your home. Stop doing anything for him. No cooking, cleaning, washing etc. Make it clear you are now living separately. I repeat. You cannot fix what he doesn't want to fix. I know as I have been where you are.
Do you get a mot at the doctors?
I need advice for a mutually messy situation
