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Should a Man put his women first ?

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25Avalon Sun 21-Feb-21 11:54:17

You say he is loving. How is this so as he doesn’t sound very loving?

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vampirequeen Sun 21-Feb-21 11:52:52

Forgot to say. He maybe thinks that not getting married will stop you claiming from him. It won't.

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vampirequeen Sun 21-Feb-21 11:51:49

I don't think you're being selfish. I think he's being very controlling and abusive. It's all very well being loving when you do as your told but he doesn't seem to be that loving when you don't.

You want to walk but you have no money. Actually you can access 'his' money. Get legal advice.

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Sara1954 Sun 21-Feb-21 11:51:27

Agree with Tanith

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NanaandGrampy Sun 21-Feb-21 11:49:06

I don't know about putting his partner first but I never comprehend how one person can forbid another from doing something.

If I wanted to visit my grandchildren who live 2 hours away and Grampy didn't want me to go - he'd be watching me reverse out of the drive.

What exactly would your partner do if you just went?

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tanith Sun 21-Feb-21 11:47:14

Sorry but no partner/husband would stop me seeing my friends or family whenever I want. If he insists on early flights just don’t go, if this causes strife then so be it. Don’t let him rule your life and if you feel you want to leave then make a plan so you have things in place. Good luck hopefully the shock of you standing firm will make him mend his controlling behaviour.

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Beau1958 Sun 21-Feb-21 11:39:35

My partner of 21 years (not husband he’s never wanted to get married) never seems to put me first. Everything is on his terms if I challenge him he says
‘my attitude stinks’ He has a very successful business I retired at 50 and I get an allowance. He’s loving and says he loves me but he has no consideration for me. For instance if we go on holiday I can’t stomach early flights it makes me feel ill but he insists we fly early regardless of how I feel. Also my daughter has moved 100 miles away with my small GS she’s a single parent he won’t allow me to visit any less than a month apart. My daughter and I are very close and she does struggle with two under 5’s. Besides I really miss them I was seeing them nearly every day so it’s hard for me. Am I being selfish or unfair ? Sometimes I just feel like walking out but I have no money of my own and nowhere to live so I feel trapped.

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