I haven't seen any of my children or grandchildren for months because of the virus and having underlying health problems but I am in touch with them constantly.
I found out purely by chance that one of my much loved sons-in-law is leading a double life. This is not speculation but fact and I don't think my daughter has any idea. Years ago a woman he worked with sent messages to my daughter claiming they were an item. My daughter was pregnant at the time and was very upset as she adores her husband but my son-in-law dealt with it and everything settled down. My son-in-law left his employment and set up a business of his own. He puts in a huge amount of hours but never seems to have any money. He works every weekend and is often away overnight. My daughter had a second child and their house badly needed extention and renovation. Because they couldn't get any more mortgage, my husband and I gave them £100,000 to do the job. Even though he had this money, we were puzzled because he seemed to be kicking his heels as though there was no urgency for them to get a decent roof over their heads. Still we helped all we could and had my daughter and the children live with us for over a year. And all this time we were giving him the opportunity to be with her more.
He's a great father when he's with the children which isn't a lot. Twice they booked holidays and twice he made excuses about work commitments and he stayed home. My grandson craves for his time and attention but sadly has got used to not having his dad around much.
I may have made my son-in-law sound like a villain but I love him so much and am so distraught about what I have found out. I don't feel able to discuss this with anyone and I have the dilema of whether to tell my daughter or not. I can't imagine how she would react if I let the cat out of the bag. She's very feisty and I fear she'd kill the woman.
On the other hand sometimes I wonder if she knows and is biding her time until the children grow.
Another puzzling thing is my daughter is beautiful, while this mistress is plain (please don't think I'm boasting - I know beauty is only skin deep), but why would he do this when he appears to be a most loving husband, father and son-in-law.
He has an unusual name and his name is on the electoral roll at the family home and also at her address. It's been on both for the past 10 years and is in the same Council area. I found this out by doing a search. Surely this is against the law. I know it's him as I took a drive and saw him there.
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