I sympathise with your situation Grandmacarole. But can go one better than you since the last day or two! (Sorry, that's not very helpful to your situation is it? I agree with others, ask him to buy his own wine or maybe he could join something like The Wine Society and order himself a crate a month, say, for home delivery?) My long term partner, 15 yrs older than me, moved into my house at start of lockdown last year. I was happy about this as I didn't want to be on my own and we were quite a good team: he deals with most of the dog walking(energetic dog!) and I run the car, shop, cook, wash it up, do the laundry etc. Up till now he has paid me half the food bills and utilities. I don't charge him rent as his room (separate bedrooms now) is only a single room in a small box room. He has his own flat which up until recently was rented out to a lodger but now he says he can't rent it out post Covid, no takers. He is a bad businessman with poor judgement ( that's why I have never mixed money or property with him) and over course of last year or so has given away 100k to a dodgy ( my words!) Ugandan builder who he didn't know before to run an equally dodgy deal selling things in Uganda. Of course builder cannot now go to Uganda to sort things out ( Covid,how convenient). Builder is living rent free in another house my partner owns as he " cannot afford the rent" and my partner thinks that if he evicts him then builder will be off into thin air and any chance of him ever seeing any of his money again is gone. But now partner says he cannot afford to pay me half the utilities any more,can he pay what he owes me at end of year? Chances of that slim I feel. I know what a mug I must sound and am terribly depressed about it, but I don't want to live on my own and taking over most of the dog duties does give me freedom to get on with other things. I would add that I adore the dog and exercise him too, separately! Partner says if he has to pay half my utilities then he will have to move back to his flat which I feel is emotional blackmail. Anyone else been in the same situation/ any advice? I am working on a better/ more independent life for the future (am mid 60's) to wean myself off this overly dependent relationship but I need time to implement plans. Sorry this is a long and self absorbed post but I am finding it so depressing. Know I have got myself into this situation and it is up to me to get myself out eventually but I don't have the courage to do it right now,