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Keeping in touch with teenage boyfriend

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MollyAA12 Wed 07-Apr-21 17:01:46

Has anyone done this? On Friends Reunited years ago an old boyfriend got in touch. We went out when I was sixteen. We have been in touch by e mail for about ten years. We drifted apart because we went in different directions.

He says he has always loved me and it is all rather poignant. We play old songs on Spotify to remember each other now and then. I picked Don't let the sun Catch you crying by Gerry and the Pacemakers.

He has grandchildren. He plays When youwere sweet Sixteen for me.

Is anyone else doing this?

BlueBelle Wed 07-Apr-21 17:06:06

No

Sago Wed 07-Apr-21 17:12:31

Don’t think my husband would be too happy.
No.

Galaxy Wed 07-Apr-21 17:14:59

Crikey if someone was playing sweet sixteen to remember me by they are going to get the shock of their lives if they meet me now.

Pantglas2 Wed 07-Apr-21 17:16:42

If you’re both single now, no problem but it could lead to difficulties within a marriage.

My friend has done this and gotten away with it so far but it would end in tears if her husband/his wife found out.

AmberSpyglass Wed 07-Apr-21 17:21:40

It doesn’t sound poignant to me, it sounds like an emotional affair.

M0nica Wed 07-Apr-21 17:58:57

Hmmm, if people start wanting to live in the past, it is usually because they are not happy with the present. They would be better off spending their time sorting that out.

He says he has always loved me and it is all rather poignant.

I wonder how many other of his teenage girlfriends he is spinning that spiel to - and how disloyal to his wife, and if he is divorced, was it for being unfaithful?

Millie22 Wed 07-Apr-21 19:08:11

Hmm no. Sixteen is a long time ago 🤣 and I'd rather live for today.

sodapop Wed 07-Apr-21 19:11:44

grinGalaxy

LullyDully Wed 07-Apr-21 19:47:43

Good for you Molly, it obviously makes you both happy.

Not sure I need or want to be reunited with my old boy friends, but that's just me. I am still happy and prefer Mr LullyDully.

MollyAA12 Wed 07-Apr-21 21:01:28

Oh dear what a moralising lot you are! I have done absolutely nothing wrong.

Pantglas2 Wed 07-Apr-21 21:06:27

Are you single Molly? Is he?

MollyAA12 Wed 07-Apr-21 21:11:52

I like the way everyone assumes I am married!!No more comments please!

Tea3 Wed 07-Apr-21 21:31:01

Galaxy

Crikey if someone was playing sweet sixteen to remember me by they are going to get the shock of their lives if they meet me now.

Ditto!

CanadianGran Wed 07-Apr-21 21:52:03

I think it's sweet. Have you watched Last Tango in Halifax?
If you are both romantically free, and there is an old spark, why not try to see if it can spark a flame?

Skydancer Wed 07-Apr-21 21:54:03

If you're both free then it's fine. If not, it's trouble.

JuneRose Wed 07-Apr-21 21:55:49

Can't see the problem as long as no one is getting hurt. It obviously brings a little joy into both your lives.

Blossoming Wed 07-Apr-21 22:01:18

No. There was a reason why we split and he’s probably still a two-faced lying philanderer grin

Callistemon Wed 07-Apr-21 22:04:50

Galaxy

Crikey if someone was playing sweet sixteen to remember me by they are going to get the shock of their lives if they meet me now.

🤣🤣🤣

Skydancer Wed 07-Apr-21 22:10:19

Galaxy, any teenage boyfriend would remember me as slim with long dark hair and miniskirts. Now I'm misshapen with thin hair and old clothes. So I'd say leave the past where it is.

Callistemon Wed 07-Apr-21 22:32:41

Don't forget they will have changed too Skydancer, possibly bald with a paunch!

MissAdventure Wed 07-Apr-21 22:57:42

I'm the one who is bald, with a paunch these days.

Casdon Wed 07-Apr-21 23:02:06

Wouldn’t it be mortifying to find they were now a silver fox?!

Callistemon Wed 07-Apr-21 23:18:12

If I feel cross with DH for any reason and my mind wanders to what an ex might be like now, I always think 'there was a reason why we never got married!'

If he's always loved you Molly there must be a reason why you ditched him smile

Lizbethann55 Wed 07-Apr-21 23:41:43

I am "friends" on Facebook with my childhood sweetheart and one time nextdoor neighbour. We were about 14 I guess when his family moved away. We ended up at the same university town and met up a couple of times . He DJd at my 21st, he had long hair. Now we are both in our mid(ish) 60s and he is bald and I am overweight. We are both happily married and grandparents. I am happy to keep things a key board and computer screen apart!!