I'm 51, my father died just before Christmas 2020. I feel so flat nothing seems to shift that feeling. The most troubling thing is though I miss my DS and DD so much. This started before the pandemic but got worse and worse. I live with my DH some 4 to 5 hours drive from them.
I have been wanting for so long to move closer but I know my DH will not be supportive of this. The pull towards them is overwhelming though.
I know I can't go yet as I have 3 years before I can retire from my job with a small pension of my own. I also have to consider my mother who lives and hour or so away from me. However in the future if I still feel this way I know I will just have to go. I don't want to live in their pockets maybe an hour a way, just so I can get to them if necessary and so I can meet up with them for the day.
I just need to know if I sound ridiculous, or is the way I'm feeling ok and does my idea of moving nearer to them seem unreasonable? I feel so sad and confused. If my husband would agree to considering this in future I think I'd feel so much more relaxed and settled, I don't know how to approach it with out him going stubborn and shutting down. If I still feel like this in years to come I almost feel I would have to up and leave him.