Oh, I don’t think there’s a lot of empathy on here! Of course grit your teeth and get on with it - what choice is there? But I think you can feel hurt and rather that heaping blame on you for that, perhaps it’s ok to say your family were at the least, thoughtless. There may indeed be other stuff going on - life is seldom simple. It’s great that they all loved the cake. Maybe try to be a bit more assertive next time.
Is it unusual for the husbands family to have more interaction? Holidays together, Christmases, celebrations ? Do you feel left out? Is he a bit controlling with all this silence? As I say, life is full of complex issues! The more sensitive you feel about it, the more sensitised you become, that’s the trouble.