Smacking children

DillytheGardener

Kate1949 I’m so that happened to you, I wish I could go back in time and scoop the child version of you away to somewhere safe. No child should feel unsafe in their home.

When you even thing of the word "smacking". It's not a tap on the back of the hand. It's a smack. Intended to hurt! I still cannot see any reason for smacking a small child.

It's sort of obvious the damage that has been done to those who were smacked or did the smacking and think it is ok

They think smacking is ok

We have to stop normalising behaviour that is not ok

I was beaten with a belt as a child, by my mother, often for things I hadn't done (I had a younger brother who was usually the culprit). I used to lie in bed crying and wish she was dead.

All it taught me was that it would be better to lie if I was blamed for something.

As a child I resolved never to use smack or beat my children and they are both well balanced adults.

Kate1949 I’m so that happened to you, I wish I could go back in time and scoop the child version of you away to somewhere safe. No child should feel unsafe in their home.

I just posted this on another thread. How many of you smackers would forgive being smacked by someone 10 times your size. Or if your husband smacked you because he was scared, tired, frustrated, angry or worried you were in danger?

I was chastised in some way as a small child, cried my heart out until my carer gave a me chocolate santa ? Chubby little thing that I was. I cannot remember the punishment. I do remember he cried.

Later life when I was returned to my mum and dad, she slapped, kicked, punched and tortured. I remember it all.

I know my carer regretted it, and never did it again.

I know my mum did it till I was 15 and reacted. It scared the Sh$t out of her. Yes, a Bully!!

So for the pro spankers. Can you give me on good reason for smacking your child?

I remember my young daughter being smacked by my husband. I think it only happened once and it was necessary. She kept picking up stones and putting them in her mouth which was obviously very dangerous and a real worry to us. She knew she shouldn't do it, she had been told a few times, and yet she did it again. So she got a smack and was told never do that again or you'll get another one. She never did it again. I have no regrets.

A rather difficult boy that I childminded would sometimes be sent upstairs to 'cool off' for ten minutes when he really misbehaved.

It wasn't too much of a punishment (there were plenty of toys and books etc. up there) - just separation from the other kids.

He always stopped on the stairs and said 'Can't you just smack me, like Mum does?'

I smacked my daughter a couple of times. I regret it. As for the naughty step being downright cruelty, my father beat me so badly once, I had to have weeks off school. I wish we'd had a naughty step.

I was smacked once when I was almost three and I remember my dad sitting beside me on the bed crying with me

.He wouldn't have smacked me only his sister insisted I be smacked for repeating the F word that my sister had picked up at school and passed onto me.
My aunt was raised in a childrens home after her mother died when she was six and punishments were common being smacked by slippers and wooden spoons amongst them She thought I NEEDED smacked .He never hit me again and apologised for doing it many times in his life.
I never hit my children ,they weren't angels but I wouldn't hit an adult of comparable size to me so why would I lift my hand to a small child.It teaches them nothing exept that adults are bullies and inconsistent in their message."Dont hit your sister...but its ok for me to hit you"
My children dont smack their kids .I have no respect for any adult who hits children either "because they deserved it ,or its a way to teach them a lesson"Its lazy parenting and anger management issues that should be dealt with BEFORE you bring a child into the world

I certainly don't believe in the naughty step I think it's downright cruel.

I must say I can't tell who was smacked and who wasn't on here.

Summerlove

According to some - you can always tell the children who weren’t smacked in public.

So, you must have been a hell raiser and just pretending you were well behaved. ???

I said to a neighbour once "I was never smacked as a child" and he said "And it shows".

I smacked one of mine once and think I was more upset than she was.

halfpint1 I remember the school dinner “ladies” in their pink overall dresses “persuading” children to eat the heap of boiled-to-death dock leaves masquerading as cabbage. No pudding until it’s all eaten…..they’d be sobbing.
Horrible bullies, but just doing their job I suppose…..
I rather like cabbage now but I can cook
And the school puds were ? yummy.

I was never smacked nor did I smack my children . They do not smack theirs either.
Violence is never acceptable.
There are many more ways to show children that certain behaviour is not acceptable and that actions have repercussions.

I remember my dad smacking me ( only time i remember) and he said "Now that hurt me more than it hurt you."

I remember thinking how has that hurt you ! My backside is stinging.

I did smack my children's legs yes, i cant say that i have regrets over it because it was few and far between, it happened, they haven't turned against me for it.

I don’t agree with smacking at all I was never never smoked and was a pretty well behaved kid although I m sure I had my moments
I never ever smacked my kids and they ve all grown up well adjusted None of my grandkids have ever been smacked
It’s just not necessary
If you can’t handle a child without raising your hand then it’s you with the problem

There are many, many forms of abuse.
To focus on just one is very narrow minded.
Then we end up with view that without physically knocking someone around, they must be somehow complicit in their own abuse.

How is it known the majority in prison didn’t come from
anti smacking homes ?

As do most.

I agree Iam64

I think I'm too laid back as a parent sometimes but my children are turning out ok

There is no excuse, no child should ever be smacked.

I don't think it's the worst thing in the world.
Years ago, a friend told me that her daughter wet her knickers when her dad spoke to her in "the voice".
I dont find that to be any more healthy.

I didn't smack my daughter.

My mother would slap me across the tops of my legs or crack them with a wet tea towel like a whip. Dad never smacked me even though she told him to. Non of my brothers or my sister were smacked. I must have been a very bad girl!

Although it was always the big threat, I can’t remember my dad ever smacking us, my mother did quite often, but frankly, that was preferable to having to sit on the stairs for hours, or endure the silent treatment.