A dear friend has just come off the phone to me in floods of tears because she has discovered that her fiancé -partner of many years (but less than 10) has been exchanging newsy, flirty, kissy kissy emails with other women via a subscription on line dating site.
Both are in their seventies and he is impotent but as they don’t live together all the time she can’t know if, when her back is turned, he is meeting these women. She says he’s very complimentary to them & clearly they are anxious to meet him. He’s shared profile photos of himself which were taken by her on holidays together so that’s hurt her even more.
My advice to her was not to panic, take a deep breath and sleep on it. I’ve suggested that in time she might find a subtle way to challenge him & ask him to explain. He’s not been well recently & she’s spent considerable time assisting him over the last 12 months with practical issues and which have sapped her energy, helping him with the nightmare of an intestate family bereavement. Clearing the house and garden etc. has been heavy work. She feels betrayed.
My advice is that she should think of him as a “silly old fool” and not to throw baby out with the bath water because their relationship is generally strong and they have good times together when he’s well enough.
I think she should hold her cards up her sleeve & keep her antennae up.
What advice would other Grans give?
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